It’s Not Your Ambition. It’s Your Trauma. (The High Achiever’s Curse: Part 2)

You weren’t born chasing gold stars. You weren’t born thinking, "If I slow down, I’ll be forgotten." You were trained.

Welcome to Part 2 of "The High Achiever’s Curse: Healing The Void." In the last lesson, we identified that your success is a survival response. Today, we are going to find the source code.

In this lesson, I’m showing you exactly how your "Childhood Blueprint" was written. You will learn the specific emotional rules you absorbed from your "perfectly imperfect" caregivers and why you are currently trying to rewrite your history by re-enacting your worst day over and over again.

IN THIS EPISODE:

1- The 3 High-Achiever Blueprints: Which one are you running?

2- Why you are not chasing a bigger goal—you are chasing a different childhood.

3- How to stop blaming yourself (and your parents) by understanding the mechanics of the "Worst Day Cycle."

📓 YOUR REPAIR WORK (The De-Programming Journal) To change the blueprint, you first have to see it. Grab your journal and answer the 3 questions from this lesson:

1- When I was growing up, what did I feel I had to be or do to get love, attention, or approval? Complete the sentence: “I learned I had to ___________ to be loved.”

2- What did I feel I had to hide or never show if I wanted to stay connected and safe? Complete the sentence: “I learned I had to hide ___________ to stay safe.”

3- Looking at my life right now, how am I still living by those same rules? Be specific: where do you still perform, over-function, or abandon your needs to keep connection (work, relationships, parenting, friendships, even your relationship with yourself)?

0:00 Why High Achievers Feel Empty After Success

0:38 Your Emotional Blueprint Was Formed in Childhood

1:59 Perfectionism and Shame: “If I’m Not Perfect, I’m a Problem”

3:09 Why Rest Feels Unsafe for High Performers

4:05 “My Needs Are Too Much” – Emotional Suppression Explained

4:48 The Overfunctioning Trap: The Responsible One Who Never Rests

5:55 Why Your Brain Repeats Old Emotional Patterns

6:43 Success Can’t Heal a Childhood Wound

8:20 You’re Not Chasing Bigger Goals. You’re Chasing a Different Childhood

9:00 Stop Blaming Yourself (And Stop Blaming Your Parents)

10:05 Why Success Will Never Fill the Void

11:06 Journal Questions to Break the High Achiever Pattern

13:14 The Shame Voice That Keeps You Running

▶️ WATCH THE Previous LESSON Click here to watch Part 1: https://youtu.be/5mmnxxa2wB4

🚀 READY TO GO DEEPER?

1. Take the Individual Freedom Assessment. Get a personalized snapshot of your patterns so you know exactly what to work on.

👉 Take the assessment- https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/emotional-freedom-assessment-779

2. Read the Books Dive deep into the mechanics of the Worst Day Cycle™ and Emotional Authenticity. 📚 Your Journey To Success: https://amzn.to/3nfVp

📚 Your Journey To Being Yourself: https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ

3. Work With Me Directly For high achievers ready for individualized, trauma-informed support.

👉 Private Coaching: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350

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⚠️ IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER

This course and all related content are for educational and personal growth purposes only. They are NOT therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and they do not replace working with a licensed mental health or medical professional. If you are in crisis or experiencing thoughts of self-harm, please contact your local emergency services or a qualified mental health professional immediately.

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Your success might be a trauma response.

Before you react — listen.

High achievers aren’t driven by ambition alone. Many are driven by shame, fear of not being enough, or early emotional wounds they never knew were shaping their lives.

This video explains:

• Why achievement never feels like arrival

• Why the void comes back after every win

• What the “Worst Day Cycle” is

• How shame becomes rocket fuel

• And what actually fills the void

If you’ve ever thought:

“Why doesn’t any of this feel like enough?”

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📚 MY FIRST BOOK: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr

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Are you repeating the same relationship patterns — chasing, shutting down, feeling unseen, or choosing emotionally unavailable partners? It’s not your fault. It’s your childhood emotional blueprint.

In this video, we go deep into:

✓ why your nervous system reacts the way it does

✓ how the Worst Day Cycle™ drives your relationships

✓ why conflict feels dangerous

✓ why you chase or shut down

✓ how trauma chemistry shapes attraction

✓ and how to finally break the pattern wIth Emotional Authenticity and the Authentic Self Cycle

Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or quietly exhausted by the war inside your own heart, mind, and body, I help you map and heal the childhood emotional blueprint that’s been training your Survival Persona. So your relationships—and your relationship with yourself—can finally feel emotionally safe, and you can live from your authentic self instead of old programming.

If you’re a high-functioning, emotionally exhausted adult who’s tried therapy, communication tools, or emotional intelligence — but nothing has created lasting change — you’re in the right place.

This channel teaches root-cause emotional healing, using:

🔥 The Emotional Authenticity Method™

🔥 The Worst Day Cycle™

🔥 The Authentic Self Cycle™

🔥 The Relationship Repair & Reconnection Method™

It’s time to break the cycle, heal the blueprint, and build the emotionally safe, connected relationship you deserve.

You’re not broken — you’re patterned.

And patterns can be rewired.

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If you go quiet, blank, or distant during conflict, this video is for you.

When tension rises and the words disappear… when your chest tightens or your throat closes… that isn’t avoidance. It’s your nervous system trying to keep you safe.

Shutting down isn’t a flaw.

It’s something your body learned when conflict felt dangerous.

In this video, we gently explore:

✓ Why freezing in conflict is a survival response

✓ What’s happening in your body when you shut down

✓ How childhood experiences teach the rule “silence = safety”

✓ Why shame makes your voice disappear

✓ How healing can start without forcing yourself to talk

If you’ve ever wondered, “What’s wrong with me?” — there’s nothing wrong with you.

You’re not broken.

You’re not avoidant.

You’re overwhelmed — and that can be healed.

This is a soft reminder that your reactions make sense, and your voice can return when it feels safe again.

🕺🏼SCHEDULE A SESSION: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350

📣 CLIENT REVIEWS: https://bit.ly/30zFTBN

📚 Purchase MY NEW BOOK: Your Journey To Being Yourself; https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ

📚 MY FIRST BOOK: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr

🌍 My Website: https://www.kennyweiss.net

🎓ONLINE MASTERCLASSES:

https://thegreatnessu.com/courses

🕺CONNECT WITH ME:

Heal The Hurt Weekly Podcast 🎙https://spoti.fi/46FSmAj

Instagram 📸 @kennyweiss.kw

Facebook 👥 https://www.facebook.com/kennyweiss.net

Newsletter 💌 https://geni.us/kennyweissnewsletter

Are you repeating the same relationship patterns — chasing, shutting down, feeling unseen, or choosing emotionally unavailable partners? It’s not your fault. It’s your childhood emotional blueprint.

In this video, we go deep into:

✓ why your nervous system reacts the way it does

✓ how the Worst Day Cycle™ drives your relationships

✓ why conflict feels dangerous

✓ why you chase or shut down

✓ how trauma chemistry shapes attraction

✓ and how to finally break the pattern wIth Emotional Authenticity and the Authentic Self Cycle

Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or quietly exhausted by the war inside your own heart, mind, and body, I help you map and heal the childhood emotional blueprint that’s been training your Survival Persona. So your relationships—and your relationship with yourself—can finally feel emotionally safe, and you can live from your authentic self instead of old programming.

If you’re a high-functioning, emotionally exhausted adult who’s tried therapy, communication tools, or emotional intelligence — but nothing has created lasting change — you’re in the right place.

This channel teaches root-cause emotional healing, using:

🔥 The Emotional Authenticity Method™

🔥 The Worst Day Cycle™

🔥 The Authentic Self Cycle™

🔥 The Relationship Repair & Reconnection Method™

It’s time to break the cycle, heal the blueprint, and build the emotionally safe, connected relationship you deserve.

You’re not broken — you’re patterned.

And patterns can be rewired.

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