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  • When Ego Gets Loud in Motherhood: Anger and the Mother-Child Relationship

    When Ego Gets Loud in Motherhood: Anger and the Mother-Child Relationship
    Jan 30 2026
    Why does anger show up so quickly in motherhood — especially when we’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and trying to do everything right?In this episode of Gracefully Unraveled, Kelli shares a vulnerable carpool moment that opens a deeper conversation about ego, anger, and how our inner world shapes the mother–child relationship.Drawing from psychology, attachment research, and spiritual wisdom, we explore:How ego depletion fuels reactive angerWhy guilt and mental load often sit underneath frustrationHow different personality types approach structure and responsibilityWhy repair matters just as much as regulationAnd how humility and grace can soften even our hardest momentsThis episode is an honest reminder that motherhood isn’t about getting it right the first time — it’s about awareness, repair, and trusting God to keep forming us in the mess.If you’ve ever snapped in the carpool line, replayed a moment with regret, or wondered if you’ve already messed it all up — this one’s for you.💖You can follow along with Gracefully Unraveled Podcast on social media:🔗Facebook🔗Instagram<>It doesn’t matter if we’re technically “ready” at 8:20 — somehow, nearly every single morning, we cannot get out the door for carpool until 8:40.And on this particular day, as we finally pull out of the driveway, the boys suddenly realize… they didn’t comb their hair.Or — correction — I didn’t comb their hair.Instant panic.One of them shifts his backpack in a way that creates a loud, dramatic thump — the kind of noise that immediately puts your nervous system on high alert — and my brain goes, Oh good, conflict. Let’s do this.My response comes fast. Too fast.“Your hair looks fine. And maybe next time, instead of goofing off all over the house, you guys could take a little initiative. Get dressed. Brush your teeth. Shoes on. Comb your hair. Instead of relying on me to remember everything for everyone.”And as I’m saying it, I can hear myself. I know the tone. I know the edge.But it’s already out there.As I drive them to school, holding back tears that are threatening to spill over, I’m replaying the moment — wishing I had handled it differently. Because I know I could have.By the time I get home, I’ve already processed what was underneath that reaction.It wasn’t really about hair.It was ego.Look at me, trying to do it all. Nobody sees how hard this is. Nobody cares how tired I am.And truthfully — I am tired. Not just physically, but mentally. The mental load has been heavy lately. Growing boys ask a lot of questions, move fast, operate on what feels like endless adrenaline… and my own internal bandwidth has been thin.If I had been operating from spiritual essence — from holy consciousness — my response might’ve sounded more like:“Guys, I’m really sorry we missed that. We don’t have time to go back inside, but let’s check the mirror and see what we’re working with. We’ve got water in the car. Hands will do.”But most days… that’s not me.Especially lately. Especially here at Christmas time.And if I’m being honest, there are moments where I quietly wonder if the ship has sailed too far out to sea. If I’ve reacted poorly too many times. If I’ve apologized too many times. If there’s a point where my kids just decide: This is who mom is.Unhinged.Which — side note — would be an unfortunate legacy to leave behind.So today, I want to talk about that space. The space between ego and anger — and how it shapes the mother–child relationship.Welcome back to Gracefully Unraveled — a podcast where we explore the sacred messiness of motherhood, identity, and ego. I’m your host, Kelli Lynch, and every other week we take an honest look at how motherhood reshapes us — not into someone new, but into a deeper awareness of who we already are.Through personal reflection, spiritual insight, a little research, and just enough humor to survive — let’s unravel with intention and grace together.Modern psychology doesn’t always use the word ego the way spiritual teachers do — but it’s talking about the same thing.For example, ego through the lens of psychology is often translated into self-concept, self-esteem, and self-control — with self-control often serving as a measure of ego strength.Studies on ego depletion actually show that when our self-regulatory resources are drained — when we’re tired, overstimulated, emotionally overloaded — we’re more impulsive, more reactive, and more prone to anger.In other words: when the ego is exhausted, it gets louder.Moral psychology takes this even further by distinguishing between two kinds of anger:Justified anger — responding to real violations of dignity or boundariesArrogant anger — flaring up when our sense of superiority, control, or adequacy feels threatenedThat second one? That’s ego-driven anger.Not because we’re bad moms — but because something inside us feels unseen, ...
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    12 min
  • Grace Note | When a Season Ends: Letting Go in Motherhood

    Grace Note | When a Season Ends: Letting Go in Motherhood
    Jan 23 2026
    In this short Grace Note, Kelli reflects on an unexpected moment of grief while shopping for her growing boys—one that opened the door to a deeper realization about motherhood and the quiet ache of seasons ending.Through humor, honesty, and spiritual reflection, this episode explores what it means to let go of who we were as young moms, make peace with who we are becoming, and trust that God’s presence remains—throughout the entire journey.This Grace Note is a gentle reminder for mothers navigating transition: you’re allowed to mourn, you are not ungrateful, and you are still valuable (and loved) beyond measure.💖You can follow along with Gracefully Unraveled Podcast on social media:🔗Facebook🔗Instagram<>This past weekend, I wandered into a Carter’s outlet store.And when I say wandered, I really mean I walked in with purpose—because I was on a mission to find sweatpants for my boys.First, because that’s all they wear. And second, because I’m fairly certain they don’t actually walk on their feet… they walk on their knees.Which means they are constantly blowing holes through perfectly good pants. And unlike jeans, sweatpants cannot be patched. They just become a dust rag.Anyway, I was pretty sure Carter’s sizing went up to “big kid sizes” so it was worth a shot.The moment I stepped inside, I was hit with an atmosphere that felt familiar—but also very far away.Soft colors. Tiny hangers. Clothing so small it looks like it belongs to dolls. There were glowing parents strolling slowly, almost reverently, hiding their undoubtable fatigue with a deep love for this season of their lives.The whole place just oozed cuteness.Then suddenly —I felt like an imposter and my pace quickened because I no reason to dwell in the upper quadrant of the store.I quietly made my way to the back, hoping no one would ask me anything. I flipped through a few racks, scanned a couple shelves—and sure enough, there were sizes that technically fit my boys, who are now eight and eleven.But it was obvious.They were not the store’s primary demographic.No shade to Carter’s. I loved Carter’s. OshKosh too — when my kids were babies and toddlers but I was no longer a mom of littles.As I made what felt like a slow, awkward walk of shame toward the exit, I overheard the workers at the counter chatting about a baby—something about a friend's hospital experience.And that’s when it hit me.I wasn’t just leaving a store — for the last time. I was beginning to mourn a season of my life that has very clearly passed.There will be no more “Mommy’s Number One Fan” onesies. No more tiny jeans with elastic waistbands. No more soft, sleepy weight of a baby curled into my chest.That gentleness, that warmth, that comfort that filled that space—a place I once fit so easily into—has been replaced with hooded sweatshirts and athletic shorts. With loud voices. Wrestling matches. Slammed doors with stuff falling off the wall.And if I’m really honest, I really miss cradling a baby and holding a toddler’s hand. Momma, can you relate?But, as I took those final steps towards the exit, breathing in the vibes, I was growing in soft acceptance that as a mother, I am where I’m supposed to be.I’m a forty-something-year-old woman raising boys into young men. And, I trust that God is walking with me through this season, just like He has every other one, and the ones still to come.But knowing that didn’t make closing the proverbial Carter’s door behind me any easier.I think scripture gets this right when it says there’s a season for everything. Not a season we rush through. Not a season we pretend doesn’t hurt. Just a season that arrives or exits—whether we’re ready or not.There’s a line in Psalm 139 that says, “Even there, your hand will guide me, and your right hand will hold me fast.”Even there. Even when we’re standing in the doorway between what was and what is.So maybe this Grace Note is simply an invitation—to notice the places you no longer fit. The versions of yourself that quietly wave goodbye.Not resisting it. Not pretending it doesn’t hurt. Just letting yourself feel the ache.I think we’re quick to spiritualize acceptance—like if we trust God enough, transitions won’t sting.But I don’t think that’s true.I think faith often looks like standing in the doorway of what was… grieving it… and still choosing to step forward.So maybe this Grace Note is simply an invitation—to notice the places you no longer fit. The versions of yourself that quietly wave goodbye. And to trust that even in the ache, you are still being held.Not by nostalgia. But by grace.And that’s today’s Grace Note—a small, ordinary moment that opened the door to something deeper. A reminder that God meets us not just in beginnings… but in endings, too.
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    5 min
  • What an Accidental Gaming Fast Taught Me About Motherhood (Ep.8)

    What an Accidental Gaming Fast Taught Me About Motherhood (Ep.8)
    Jan 15 2026
    After the holiday chaos fades, many moms are left with a quiet, unsettling question:Why did I give everything — my time, my presence, my energy — and still feel exhausted?In this episode of Gracefully Unraveled, Kelli Lynch reflects on an unexpected post-holiday lesson sparked by an accidental technology fast, a meltdown over video games, and a long decompression walk that led to deeper questions about motherhood, presence, and permission.Together, we explore:Why “being present” doesn’t always feel peacefulHow fear-based parenting and cultural pressure can turn into quiet martyrdomWhat current research actually says about kids and video gamesWhy parental stress matters more than screen time aloneAnd how faith invites discernment over perfectionDrawing from personal experience, recent research, and spiritual wisdom—including reflections on the life of Jesus—this episode offers compassionate space for moms who are tired of trying to be the hero of their own story.This isn’t an argument for more screens or fewer boundaries. It’s an invitation to grace, permission, and a more honest understanding of what presence can look like in real life.If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re doing motherhood “right,” this episode is for you.💖You can follow along with Gracefully Unraveled Podcast on social media:🔗Facebook🔗Instagram<>Truth be told, as much as I love developing content — and believe me, plenty of ideas came up over the holidays — I was dialed all in on home and family.But not for the reasons that sound good on Instagram.It wasn’t because I’m some beautifully devoted woman who effortlessly embodies the sacred role of motherhood. It’s because over the years, I’ve learned something incredibly important about myself:I have limited mental and emotional capacity, especially at the end of the year.And the holidays? They push me right to the edge of it.If you listened to my last episode about moms at Christmas, you know exactly what I mean. That season doesn’t just drain calendars — it drains nervous systems.And I’ve learned this podcast can’t become another place where I perform, strive, or meet an invisible expectation. Gracefully Unraveled is a release valve, not a requirement. It exists to support my becoming — not to prove my discipline.That distinction matters.Welcome back to Gracefully Unraveled — a podcast where we explore the sacred messiness of motherhood, identity, and ego. I’m your host, Kelli Lynch, and every other week I reflect on how motherhood reshapes us — not into someone new, but into a deeper awareness of who we already are.Through personal story, spiritual wisdom, a little science, and a lot of honesty, we unravel — together — with grace.As further proof that I’ve had to make peace with my limits — years ago, I went part-time in my marketing and communications career.And I want to be really clear:It wasn’t because I didn’t like my job.It wasn’t because I lacked ambition.And it certainly wasn’t because I didn’t want responsibility.It was because I finally accepted reality.I was spiraling — mentally and emotionally — under the weight of trying to be everything, everywhere, all at once. And with the guidance and provision of God, I found myself in a position where I could scale back without throwing our family into financial free fall.That decision didn’t just slow my schedule — it slowed a trajectory that, if I’m honest, would have landed me in a mental health crisis.And even now, during the holidays, I have to dial things back further. I know how that might sound to some women — especially those juggling full-time work, caregiving, financial pressure, and zero margin.So let me say this clearly and gently:God’s plan for each of us looks different.Our capacities are not comparable.And limitation is not a moral failure.I believe God’s plan for me — in very crude terms — was to lovingly knock down and slow down an Enneagram 7 with an 8 wing who was gluttonous for achievement… but pointed in all the wrong directions.Despite going seemingly all-in on home and family for weeks — being physically present, emotionally engaged, available — I came out the other side unsettled.Why was it so chaotic?Why, despite my presence, did this break not feel peaceful… or joyful… or restorative?Why did it feel loud, overstimulating, and exhausting — even though I was doing everything “right”?And then, in a moment of half-humor and half-honesty — while taking a decompression walk — I found myself wondering:Could video games have helped?Cue the screeching brakes.This holiday break, we found ourselves in an entirely unplanned technology fast.The kids didn’t ask to play video games.And I didn’t suggest it.For nearly two weeks, gaming just… didn’t happen.I think my oldest acknowledged it at one point — but never outright requested or dare I say, fought for it. And I didn’t frame it as some...
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    13 min
  • Why Christmas Feels Hard for Moms - Even When We Love the Magic (Ep.7)

    Why Christmas Feels Hard for Moms - Even When We Love the Magic (Ep.7)
    Dec 19 2025
    Christmas is supposed to feel joyful — so why does it feel so heavy for moms?In this episode, Kelli Lynch shares an honest reflection on motherhood during the holidays: carrying the mental load, managing kids’ big emotions as winter break approaches, and trying to hold onto the magic while feeling stretched thin.Blending psychology, cultural insight, humor, and faith, Kelli explores why kids often seem more dysregulated at Christmas, why moms tend to feel the pressure most, and how grace — not perfection — is at the heart of the season. This episode ultimately returns to the deeper meaning of Christmas: the birth of Jesus and God’s work of restoring peace in the middle of chaos.🎄 Tender, real, and faith-rooted — this one was hard to record, and even harder to live.Follow Gracefully Unraveled on Instagram and Facebook for ongoing reflections, journal prompts, and updates about the podcast.🔗Facebook🔗Instagram<>The other day I overheard my husband say — with a level of disdain — “What are you doing?”And my eldest son replied, “Nothing.”Now, I can assure you, “nothing” does not warrant the tone of voice I heard. My husband followed it up with, “You were hanging halfway out of the Christmas tree.”And that’s the moment my brain starts firing. I should go out there. I should remind the boys of all the times I’ve told them not to play football in the house, and flex the authority I think I should have, sharing my frustration - despite having not even been in the room.But the truth is — I’m tired of talking.This holiday season, talking feels like a full-time job with no PTO. And over dinner the other night, I actually told my family I wanted to go mute for a day… because it felt like more work than it was worth.If that resonates with you — then momma, you’ve landed in the right place*.*You’re listening to Gracefully Unraveled — a podcast about the honest, soulful, and sometimes edgy journey through motherhood. I’m your host, Kelli Lynch, and every other week I explore how this path reshapes us — not into someone new, but into a deeper awareness of who we are. Through reflection, spiritual wisdom, a little research, and just enough comedy to stay sane, we’ll navigate this messy, beautiful unraveling together.I want to say this out loud before we go any further.This episode was especially hard for me to record. There were pauses. There were emotions. There were tears that stopped me mid-sentence more than once. Because I am still living this episode. And, if you are catching this before Christmas, you may find yourself being hit a little harder too - so grab the tissues!So why can joy slip away for so many moms during the most wonderful time of the year?I mean, I’m an Enneagram 7. I love buying gifts. I love creating moments. I love fun. I love delight. I am not a Christmas minimalist forced into misery.And yet… something still shifts in me this time of year.Surveys consistently show that mothers report significantly higher stress than fathers during the holidays, largely because we carry most of the planning, shopping, hosting, scheduling, and emotional “magic-making.” One national poll found nearly twice as many mothers as fathers report high holiday stress — and about one in five parents believe their own stress actually impacts their children’s enjoyment of the holidays.That’s not because moms don’t love Christmas. It’s because loving Christmas doesn’t cancel out the weight of responsibility.Researchers and therapists describe this as the mental load — the invisible labor of remembering everything, managing emotions, holding the vision of what Christmas is supposed to feel like. And culturally, women are still handed the role of Holiday Coordinator-in-Chief. We internalize the expectation that if Christmas feels off, it’s somehow on us.So even if you’re wired like me — an Enneagram 7 wired for happy moments — joy can quietly erode when the responsibility outweighs the delight.And then there’s the kids.I keep asking myself: Is it just me… or are kids actually more ill-behaved at Christmas?Because yes — I’m busier. But I also notice that as winter break approaches, my kids seem louder, more impulsive, less interested in listening, and far more likely to test every boundary we have.Here’s the grace-giving truth: psychology suggests this isn’t your imagination.Child development experts consistently explain that children become more dysregulated as Christmas and winter break approach because the routines that help them feel safe are slowly disappearing. School structure fades. Bedtimes slip. Days become unpredictable. And in their place come decorations, music, sugar, visitors, elf pets and a month-long countdown their brains are not developmentally equipped to manage.Add in the constant anticipation — gifts, Santa, “just wait until Christmas” — and kids carry a level of internal pressure they don’t...
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    10 min
  • Interlude: Identity, Ego & the Mom Who’s Tired of Running on Autopilot

    Interlude: Identity, Ego & the Mom Who’s Tired of Running on Autopilot
    Dec 12 2025
    This special Interlude episode of Gracefully Unraveled takes a deeper look at identity, ego, and the invisible pressures modern mothers carry. Kelli breaks down these big ideas using a blend of psychology (Freud’s id/ego/superego), spiritual teaching (Ram Dass), and relatable humor.If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or like you’re living life on autopilot, this episode helps you understand why—and how to reconnect with your truest self.Perfect for listeners interested in motherhood, personal growth, self-discovery, mental health, and spiritual development.Follow for new episodes every other week and bonus reflections in between.And, for more weekly inspiration, you can follow @GracefullyUnraveledPodcast on social media:🔗Facebook🔗Instagram<>"There we were, women in our thirties. Educated, married, mothers, women who have careers, who manage homes and oversee companies. And there we were, utterly resigned to lives that feel overly busy and pressurized, disconnected and exhausted." — Shauna Niequist, Present Over PerfectWelcome to this week’s episode of Gracefully Unraveled — and our very first Interlude. This series within the podcast is something a little different. Less story, more soul school. These are episodes where I pause our usual rhythm to dive deeper into the big ideas and concepts that inspire the regular episodes. And today, we'll be exploring the often-misunderstood words — identity and ego.These words are foundational to this podcast and how we navigate our experiences with motherhood. And while the teachings I share today won’t be exhaustive, my hope is to bring a variety of voices over time — offering both spiritual and psychological insights — so we can begin to trace the common threads of wisdom that stretch across science and tradition, helping us make sense of our own becoming.So let’s slow down and get curious — not just about the definitions, but about the deeper implications of how we see ourselves, and how we live.How many of you can relate to that quote from Shauna Niequist's book, Present Over Perfect? One day you wake up to find yourself crouched, balancing on one heel on top of a box (anyone else seen that TikTok challenge?), but in this version, you're holding a baby with your left arm, and typing on a laptop with your right — wondering, How the hell did I arrive here?We all have an unconscious mind that operates on autopilot. Sometimes it's helpful — like warning us to run from a bear. Or... wait, are you supposed to run from a bear? Or only certain bears?Nevermind, in the context of Niequist’s quote, we — especially as women — often find ourselves impulsively chasing ideals, meeting social norms, or even pushing back against them, only to pause one weekend and realize we don’t remember when or how we signed up for all of this. And while gazing out the window, coffee in hand, we think to ourselves, Why do I still feel so disconnected? And, what I am disconnected from anyway?Let’s begin with Sigmund Freud — the founder of psychoanalysis and a foundational figure in the world of psychology. Freud believed that the human psyche was composed of three core elements: the id, the ego, and the superego.The id represents primal urges and instincts. It operates on the pleasure principle, demanding immediate gratification. At the start of life, he noted that id is the dominant force — impulsive and entirely unconscious — focused on seeking pleasure and avoiding pain--the driving energy beneath all our behavior. The superego is the internalization of societal, cultural, and parental values. It imposes guilt, ideals, and moral standards. And over time ego emerges to temper the instinctual needs of the id with the high expectations of the superego, all while navigating the demands of the external world.Freud once compared this dynamic to a horse and rider. The id is the horse — powerful, instinctual, wild. The ego is the rider — trying to steer the horse without getting thrown off. Freud saw identity as emerging from this tension — not something static, but rather something shaped and reshaped by inner forces and social interaction.But for many — including myself — this psychological map lacked depth. It left me thinking, okay, but where's the rest? And that's where spiritual teachers like Ram Dass step in to expand the terrain.Dass, once a Harvard psychologist himself, defined identity and ego as structures of mind that organize the universe around the illusion of separateness. The ego acts as a steering mechanism for a separate self, much like Freud’s “rider.” But where Freud emphasized managing impulses, Dass encouraged a conscious disidentification from the ego. He equated the ego with intellect — the head — and pointed to the heart as the seat of intuitive wisdom and unconditional love.The tension between head and heart, according to Dass, is where spiritual evolution occurs. We don’t destroy the ...
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    8 min
  • How Your Brain Shapes Your Reactions as a Mom (Ep.6)

    How Your Brain Shapes Your Reactions as a Mom (Ep.6)
    Dec 5 2025
    A bead spill in Target. A child pushing limits. A mom instantly flooded with embarrassment. Sound familiar?In this episode, we explore why these everyday moments hit us so hard — and what neuroscience, cultural expectations, and spirituality reveal about the emotional load mothers carry.We break down:🧠 How your brain predicts emotions before you choose them📊 What the Good Mother Myth is — and why it triggers instant shame💛 Why we feel watched, judged, and responsible for perfection✨ How to rewrite your reactions through identity in ChristIt’s a mix of relatable mom stories, practical insight, and spiritual grounding to help you shift from reactivity to presence.Motherhood isn’t about performing — it’s about transforming. Let’s unravel the pressure together.Thank you for listening! Please Subscribe, Rate and Review to help me reach more mommas!💖And, for more weekly inspiration, you can follow @GracefullyUnraveledPodcast on social media:🔗Facebook🔗Instagram<>I was in the store shopping recently when I overheard a mom tell her young child, “You want a toy, right? Then you have to behave.” And listen… as moms, how many of us have been there? Trying to convince — or let’s be honest, bribe — our kids to do the right thing.I have definitely been there. And, if you know anything about an Enneagram Eight… well, taking an Eight child shopping is a death match. Mine will clown and act out all over that store, subconsciously believing it’ll get him to the toy aisle faster. And when it instead results in a 'no, why would I reward you for this behavior', he acts shocked and turns to negotiation and applied guilt.But enough of my pity party; let’s get back to my role as mom observer.Sure enough, a few aisles later I end up in same vicinity as this mom again, but this time I hear a crinkle…a ripe...and then the unmistakable sound of what had to be a thousand tiny beads plinking off the cart and scattering across the floor. Followed by the mom’s desperate voice: “You’ve got to be kidding me.”Yep. That’s motherhood.I didn’t even have to see her to know exactly how she felt. Because as a mom, I felt it with her.“You’re listening to Gracefully Unraveled — a podcast about the honest, soulful, and sometimes edgy journey through motherhood. I’m your host, Kelli Lynch, and every other week I explore how this path reshapes us — not into someone new, but into a deeper awareness of who we are. Through reflection, spiritual wisdom, a little research, and just enough comedy to stay sane, we’ll navigate this messy, beautiful unraveling together.”Wouldn’t it be nice if we could reach a mental space where the bead grenade in aisle 12 actually made us laugh — instead of causing our whole body to tense up while our brain debates whether to scream or cry?Kids see hilarity in these moments. But we — the adults — instantly shift into embarrassment, fear, frustration, maybe even anger. Often before we’ve even stopped to ask:Did my child chew through the package or was it actually defective and an unavoidable accident?So where do these automatic reactions come from?Why are they so fast?And what do we do when we don’t like the mom we become in those moments?Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett, author of How Emotions Are Made, explains that our brains have “multipurpose networks” for making all mental states like emotions, thoughts, perceptions, and memories - and these networks don’t react in real-time as much as they predict what's going to happen.According to scientific theory, she notes that our brain uses past experiences, and current sensory input to guess what’s happening and how we should respond.So when the beads hit the floor, your brain fires:loud noise →public setting →broken item →people watching →parent responsibility →“This is bad.”But, if we all trusted Shakespeare we'd know that there is nothing good or bad, only thinking makes it so. However, most of us aren’t quite that evolved. Yet.Dr. Barrett further explains that the brain does this because prediction is metabolically cheaper than waiting. Our brains are expensive organs that consume a significant portion of our metabolic budget — so it’s more efficient for them to guess in advance and then correct, rather than wait and react. And if we perceive something to match the brain’s prediction or we reject the evidence that suggests otherwise, the brain doesn’t bother evaluating it any further. It just runs with the guess, because that saves energy. In short: we don’t always see the world as it is… we see it as we believe it to be.When it comes to parenting, we don’t show up as blank slates.We carry:memories of our own parentscultural messages about what “good moms” should look likejudgement we’ve absorbed from TV, social media, and other momsour own insecurities about being “enough”All of this sits on standby, ready to inform the brain’s ...
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    11 min
  • The Mom-Friend Void: Why Motherhood Feels Lonely and How Faith & Science Explain It (Ep.5)

    The Mom-Friend Void: Why Motherhood Feels Lonely and How Faith & Science Explain It (Ep.5)
    Nov 21 2025
    Motherhood can feel lonely, overwhelming, and spiritually disorienting—so why does a show like Sweet Magnolias hit us so hard? In this episode, Kelli explores why moms long for community and how motherhood reshapes friendships, faith, and identity. With insights from psychology, neuroscience, and scripture, you’ll learn why connection is essential for mental health, why faith often gets harder (and more real) after kids, and how your longing for deeper relationships is actually a sign of spiritual growth—not failure. If you're craving sisterhood, support, or a renewal of faith, this episode is a gentle, hope-filled invitation back to yourself.Thank you for listening! Please Subscribe, Rate and Review to help me reach more mommas!💖And, for more weekly inspiration, you can follow @GracefullyUnraveledPodcast on social media:🔗Facebook🔗Instagram<>How many of you are fans of Sweet Magnolias, the Netflix series? If you’re like me, you probably watch that show with a quiet sense of longing — wishing that the town of Serenity were real. Because if it were, I’d have my bags packed, my kids buckled in the car, and Google maps set.But then the TV clicks off… and real life comes rushing back. The baskets of unfolded laundry. The half-solved math homework. And seasonally appropriate, the cooked pumpkin in the fridge I had every intention of baking with - 3 days ago. And perhaps like me you feel this pang — this subtle ache — because the world you just watched feels nothing like the world you’re standing in.Today we’re exploring that ache. That longing. That discontent that gets stirred up inside you.Because something about that community — the friendships, the faith, the family dynamics — hits a tender place in a mother’s heart. And maybe it’s not about wanting their lives… but about wondering why those things feel so rare in ours.If you’ve never watched the show, here’s the quick version: Sweet Magnolias is set in a small Southern town called Serenity. It follows the intertwined lives of three women navigating motherhood, careers, heartbreak, and faith — supported by a community that shows up, prays together, feeds each other, and holds one another upright.And as you listen today, I want you to give yourself permission: It’s okay to long for those things.Welcome back to Gracefully Unraveled — a podcast where we explore the sacred messiness of motherhood, identity and ego. I'm your host Kelli Lynch, and every other week I’ll be exploring how motherhood reshapes us — not into someone new, but into a deeper awareness of who we are. Through personal reflection, spiritual insight, a dash of data and whole lot of honesty- let’s unravel with intention and kindness together.The true hallmark of the Sweet Magnolia's show is the friendship shared between these 3 amazing women - but for some mommas, that sense of friendship, so tight it feels like sisterhood - seems like a distant past. so why do once-stable friendships seem to unravel after becoming a mom?Because, motherhood reorganizes more than your schedule — it reorganizes your identity. That includes your relationships. Research published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships shows that women often experience a significant contraction in social networks after childbirth, largely due to expectations that mothers prioritize home life over social connection. And this isolation is not accidental but also not fully intentional. What we accept as maternal instinct is often mixed with societal conditioning.And to complicate it further, friendships that once felt effortless, now require more energy, planning, childcare, and vulnerability then we feel equipped to manage. Some sociologists have actually referred to early motherhood as a period of role engulfment — when one identity eclipses others, sometimes unintentionally. And where that leaves a lot of mommas, is lonely - and according to popular researcher and author Brené Brown, loneliness and disconnection are the worst heartbreaks of all.Now I of course realize this may not be the experience for all. According to a Pew Research Center survey, 55% of women report having between one and four close friends, while 36% say they have five or more. But, I would wager to guess that the number would decrease if we added a "women with kids" filter - because the harsh reality is that if given a moment to breath - moms are more likely to prioritize self-care and sleep over socializing, and next thing you know - a bestie becomes a fond memory.Based on my own experience and what I've witnessed - despite connection being biologically crucial, many women quietly retreat into motherhood assuming that sacrifice was just part of the deal.But here's a truth bomb, friendship is a 2-way street. And sometimes variable personality styles can work against each other during transitions like marriage and motherhood. Things like introversion, avoidant tendencies or even ...
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    13 min
  • Grace Note | Is This Real? A Reflection on Beauty, Faith, and Wonder

    Grace Note | Is This Real? A Reflection on Beauty, Faith, and Wonder
    Nov 14 2025

    This Grace Note reflects on a simple sunset walk that turned into a moment of spiritual clarity. A sky filled with vibrant colors led to a deeper question: Why do we sometimes doubt real beauty — and even doubt God’s love — are they too good to be true?

    In this short episode, we explore the connection between wonder, faith, and the reminders God places in everyday life. If you’re a mother seeking encouragement, spiritual insight, or a peaceful moment with God, this reflection offers a reminder of His presence and the reality of His love.

    Perfect for listeners looking for motherhood inspiration, mindful parenting, or faith-based comfort in daily life.


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    While walking at sunset, the clouds were simply spectacular. There was this endless trail of puffy clouds—glowing pink, orange, and soft blue. Thinking back on it now, it looked like something out of a storybook, as if unicorns might leap from fold to fold, covered in sprinkles.

    But in all seriousness, As I moved closer with each step, I caught myself thinking, “This landscape is beautiful—like a painting.” Maybe you’ve heard the saying, “pretty as a picture.” And then my mind started to wander: Why do we even say that? Why, when we encounter something so naturally amazing, something effortlessly spectacular, do we describe it as if it measured up to a painting—something we create, rather than what simply is?

    We rarely look at a beautiful painting and say it’s “as pretty as real life.” It struck me: when we see something awe-inspiring, sometimes our minds doubt its reality. We think it’s too good to be true. I realized we do this with God, too. God’s love, His compassion, His redemptive power through Jesus—all can feel “too good to be true.” Sometimes, disbelief rises up, whispering that what’s most beautiful and transformative can’t possibly be real.

    So next time you find yourself gazing at a breathtaking sunrise, a winding river, or caught in a moment of true awe, let yourself meditate on this: the beauty that feels too amazing to be true was created by a God who seems too great to be true—but that doesn’t make either any less real.

    And that’s today’s Grace Note—a brief window into presence, awe, and the reminders God offers in everyday moments. May it call to mind the reality of wonder, and the even greater reality of His love.
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