When we have Rules - or any other form of structure to the dynamic - and one of those Rules gets broken, what are the consequences? Does it matter the nature of the infraction? Does every consequence have to be po-faced and serious?

Join Me as we explore how punishments and discipline can be expressed in different ways, and what the headspace of punishment is like for both sides of the D/s slash.

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OK, we have looked at protocol, but how is protocol implemented? And what about how behaviour is directed? Well, Rules are the basis of structure for the dynamic. But what do we mean by a Rule? What does it govern? What's the scope, context and meaning for them?

Yes, I capitalise Rule. And I commit a lot of other crimes against grammar, too, as you'll know from previous episodes. Sorry not sorry.

But Rules and the rituals that accompany them are how the dynamic - especially in the early days - gets a structure, a shape, and a meaning. Sexual and non-sexual, private and public. And sometimes, even across groups of like-minded kinky folks.

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Ah, the BDSM collar; who doesn't want to earn one? But what do they really signify? are there different types? (yes)

And collars are only functional in the context of protocol, so let's have a dive into what protocol is all about, why it can and sometimes does make sense, and what all that Sir and Ma'am stuff is all about.

Protocol is a kink all of its own, but is also a tool for establishing the power dynamic. And like all tools, it needs to be used the right way.

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