Have you ever sat in a therapist's office and felt like a child, been told you're "too much," or feared your own dependency? When you carry attachment trauma, the therapeutic relationship itself can become the ground where your oldest wounds are painfully and powerfully re-lived.

In this first episode of the HIP Podcast, host Shaya Hecht is joined by Hadas, a trauma and somatic coach with deep lived experience as both a client and a clinician. Together, they explore the intense push and pull that defines therapy for the anxiously attached the craving for connection clashing with a terror of needing it. They discuss why common diagnoses often miss the mark, how "self-regulation" must be preceded by "co-regulation," and what it truly takes to build earned security from a foundation of insecurity. This is a conversation that reframes the chaos of therapy not as failure, but as the necessary crucible for profound healing.

In this episode, you'll hear about:

• Why feeling "crazy" or regressed in therapy can be a sign of deep work beginning.

• The critical difference between a therapist who rescues, one who withdraws, and one who provides secure attachment.

• How to tell if your "neediness" is a trauma response or a human longing for healthy connection.

• Hadas's powerful analogy of the wounded bird, explaining the therapist's role in healing.

• The hopeful, lived answer to whether moving from anxious to secure attachment is possible.

Episode Timestamps:
00:00 – Opening Hook & Introduction to the Topic
10:15 – Hadas's Story: The Push-Pull of Therapy with Attachment Trauma
22:30 – Co-Regulation vs. Coping Skills: A Paradigm Shift
35:00 – The "Wounded Bird" Analogy for Therapeutic Holding
48:45 – Navigating Rupture and Building Earned Security
58:20 – Key Takeaways for Clients and Therapists
01:05:00 – Final Thoughts & Outro

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