Forgiveness Without Pretending It Didn't Hurt: Making Room for the Pain Before Letting Go

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Forgiveness Without Pretending It Didn't Hurt: Making Room for the Pain Before Letting Go

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Want to go deeper with each episode? Subscribe to receive access to the Restored Reflection Journal Library, with guided prompts designed to help you continue the conversation beyond the podcast. Reflection Journal Library: Subscribe for the Restored Reflection Journals Forgiveness is often presented as a destination we should reach as quickly as possible—especially for Christians. But what happens when we move too quickly from "That hurt me" to "I forgive you" without giving adequate attention to everything in between? In this episode of Restored: Where Psychology Meets Grace, Dr. Malorie explores forgiveness as a process rather than a shortcut around pain. We look at why acknowledging hurt is an important part of healing, what the brain is doing when it keeps returning to a relational injury, and the difference between healthy processing and rumination. We also explore an important distinction that can get lost in conversations about forgiveness: Forgiveness is not the same as trust. Forgiveness is not reconciliation. Forgiveness is not restored access. You can forgive someone and still have boundaries. You can forgive someone you no longer trust. And in some relationships, forgiveness can coexist with the recognition that returning to the relationship would not be healthy or safe. In this episode, you'll hear about: Why rushing toward forgiveness can sometimes become a form of emotional avoidance How relational hurt influences the brain's expectations about trust, safety, and future relationships The difference between processing pain and repeatedly ruminating about it Why pain deserves adequate attention before we expect ourselves to release it Forgiveness as a nonlinear process rather than a single emotional decision Why letting go may come later in the healing journey The differences between forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and access Three practical ways to begin working with unresolved hurt A brief guided meditation for acknowledging what you're carrying without forcing forgiveness or release Psychology Meets Grace: Joseph and Forgiveness The story of Joseph and his brothers offers a powerful picture of forgiveness that doesn't require pretending the injury never happened. Joseph doesn't immediately restore the relationship when his brothers reappear. He pays attention to who they've become. And even after years have passed—and after extraordinary good has emerged from his life—Joseph still weeps. Dr. Malorie also shares why Joseph's words in Genesis 50:20 became personally meaningful during her own healing and forgiveness journey from childhood: "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good." The good that comes later doesn't make the original harm good. Instead, Joseph's story offers another possibility: what happened can have caused real harm without getting to determine what happens next. Three practices to take with you This week, consider asking yourself: What actually hurt? Look beneath the event to the deeper injury—trust, safety, belonging, rejection, disappointment, or something else. What does this pain need from me? Perhaps grief, compassion, time, a conversation, a boundary, or professional support. What am I becoming ready to carry differently? Rather than asking what you should have gotten over by now, notice what you may gradually be ready to release. Forgiveness doesn't have to be rushed. Sometimes the next step isn't "I forgive." Sometimes it's simply: "This hurt me. This mattered. And I'm finally willing to give that pain the attention it deserves." Disclaimer Restored: Where Psychology Meets Grace is provided for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for psychotherapy, mental health treatment, medical care, diagnosis, or professional advice. The information discussed on the podcast is general in nature and may not be appropriate for every individual or situation. Please seek appropriate professional support for your specific needs.

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