What if the mentors you’ve been praying for are actually the women already standing in your kitchen, at your church, or in your tiny hometown, you're just not asking the right way?

You might’ve clicked in expecting a deep dive into my recent spiritual journey, and that episode is coming.

But with my daughter home recovering from tonsil surgery and roaming the basement where I record, I needed a topic I could talk about without censoring myself mid-sentence. So today, we’re talking about something that’s shaped almost every good thing in my life: mentorship.

In this episode, I share how I’ve found mentors in unlikely places, a cowgirl cousin with horses and dogs, a small-town trapper, food truck friends, pastors, older moms, and now an intuition teacher who reminds me of the woman who once made me feel deeply seen. We’ll unpack why asking, “Will you be my mentor?” often freaks people out, what to say instead, and how to offer help in a way that opens doors instead of draining people.

We’ll also talk about the ego traps on both sides: the “I don’t need anyone” ego and the “I’m not worthy of asking for help” ego. I’ll share stories about trusting your own inner guidance (and the Holy Spirit), navigating imperfect mentors, and why you should probably stop expecting one person to mentor every area of your life. By the end, you’ll see how to turn real humans- not just internet gurus - into teachers, and how you might already be someone else’s mentor without realizing it.

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• Why I had to postpone the “big spiritual episode” and what that says about needing privacy to process deep stuff

• The simple mindset shift that makes people want to teach you (without ever asking, “Will you be my mentor?”)

• How helping clean up after a class turned into a brand-new mentor and a lunch date

• Two sneaky forms of ego that block mentorship: “I don’t need help” vs. “I’m not worthy of help”

• Learning from imperfect people—taking their wisdom without adopting their whole life

• The pastor story: when mentorship crosses into control and how to come back to your own inner guidance

• How I hunted down small-town mentors for my kids (sewing, painting, music… and even a professional trapper)

• Why receiving generously (yes, even bags of random hand-me-down clothes) can actually invite more provision

• The wild DMs with a 200k-follower creator who wasn’t making any money—and how teaching her will level up my skills

• Practical scripts you can use to ask questions without sounding judgy or like you’re attacking someone’s choices