In this episode, I’m breaking down why we can consciously want a healthy, committed relationship while still feeling wildly attracted to the exact men who can’t give us one—and why the nice, available guy can somehow give us the ick.

You'll learn:

• Why you can understand your dating pattern and still repeat it
• Why emotionally unavailable men can create such intense chemistry
• Why healthy, available men might initially give you the “ick”
• The role your nervous system and subconscious beliefs play in attraction
• Why insight alone doesn’t necessarily create change
• How changing what feels familiar can change who you’re attracted to
• What happened when my clients stopped chasing the spark and started changing the pattern underneath it
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If you’re tired of dating the same man in a different body, this episode is for you.

And if you’re ready to figure out YOUR pattern, change it, and create a clear strategy for meeting the kind of man who is actually ready for love, marriage, and commitment, book a free Dating Strategy Call with me using the link in the show notes. We’ll look at what’s been keeping you stuck and create a plan for finding your person.

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In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the exact mindset and nervous system practices I used over four years to manifest one of my biggest dreams: moving back to California!

But here's the thing... this isn't really about manifesting a move.It's about learning how to trust the process when life isn't happening on your timeline—and why that's the same work I teach women who want to find lasting love.

Inside this episode, you'll learn:

• Why the "how" and "when" aren't your job
• How to stop putting your life on hold while waiting for your dream
• The difference between surrender and giving up
• The daily practices that helped me stay grounded and hopeful
• How nervous system regulation changes what you're able to receive
• Why gratitude isn't about pretending everything is perfect
• The future journaling practice that transformed my mindset
• How to process fear without letting it run your life
• What this entire experience taught me about finding love

If you've been thinking about joining Find the One, send me a DM on Instagram (@shondahowardlove) or email me: shonda@shondahoward.com. I'd love to help you figure out whether it's the right fit for you and save $1000!

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In today's episode, I'm getting real about why dating apps aren't actually the problem, and how the strategy you've been using is.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why treating dating like a numbers game is keeping you stuck
• The difference between collecting matches and actually filtering for the right person
• How to use your past dating experiences to identify your core values
• How to weave those values into your profile so you attract the right men (and filter out the wrong ones)

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