What if your fire isn't gone, even when everything in your life feels like it's falling apart?

Whether you're navigating heartbreak, divorce, perimenopause, or a major life transition, there are seasons when you simply can't hustle, heal, or positive think your way through the pain.

In this episode, Amanda Testa welcomes back author and coach LiYana Silver to explore the transformative power of life's darkest seasons and her new book, Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce.

Together, we explore the five phases of the dark night of the soul, why rest can be more powerful than pushing through, how anger can help you reclaim your boundaries and self-worth, and the surprising ways midlife transitions invite us to reconnect with our deepest desires.

Plus, discover simple ways to gently tend your feminine fire when all you have left is a tiny ember.

Because even when your spark feels completely gone, it doesn't mean you've lost it.

Resources:

LiYana's book + free Heartbreak Transformation Map: https://www.liyanasilver.com/wakingup

Free Sensuality Activation: https://www.amandatesta.com/thegoods

Listen to our previous conversation on Waking Up And Turning On Your Feminine Genius: https://www.amandatesta.com/liyanasilver/

What if your relationship doesn't need more fixing… but more flirting?

If you love each other but lately feel more like roommates, co-parents, or logistics managers than lovers, this episode is for you.

Tune into this episode to discover:

• The sneaky way loving couples become roommates without even realizing it
• Why one tiny shift in how you connect can change the whole trajectory of your relationship
• The surprising reason "we need more date nights" may not actually be the answer
• How to know when you truly need a deeper conversation , and when you might just need to stop processing and go have some fun
• Why flirting matters in long-term love even when sex isn't the goal
• The everyday moments that quietly rebuild chemistry, affection, and that "oh yeah, I really like you" feeling
• The simple 5% question that can help your relationship feel more alive this week
• and more!

Enjoy!

Lately I've been thinking a lot about the art of "snudging" , a concept I learned from Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer. It means doing the bare minimum necessary, cutting out all the extra bullshit, and getting really honest about what actually deserves your precious energy.

After decades of doing, achieving, caring for everyone, improving ourselves, healing ourselves, optimizing ourselves and generally trying to keep ALL THE THINGS moving… menopause can arrive with a pretty clear message:

I am no longer available for doing the f&^$ing most. This is powerful wisdom.

In this episode, I'm sharing a little about what I've been up to over the past year, homeschooling, traveling through Italy, working with amazing clients, deepening my skills through advanced trainings, having more fun with friends, taking care of myself, and intentionally slowing down.

And what I've realized is that while I may be doing less, I think I'm living more.

I'm talking about letting "good enough" actually be good enough, becoming more discerning about where your life force goes, and making more room for pleasure, connection, creativity, rest and the people and experiences that matter most.

• What "snudging" means and why I'm loving this concept in midlife

• Why menopause can make us suddenly much less tolerant of things that drain us

• The difference between doing less and caring less

• Why your body may be asking you to stop overriding yourself

• What slowing down has looked like in my own life over the past year

• Why depth can sometimes matter more than constant growth and expansion

• The sneaky ways we turn our bodies, businesses, relationships and lives into giant self improvement projects

• Why pleasure and fun don't always need to be productive or therapeutic

• How to decide what actually deserves your energy

• Why "good enough" might be one of the most liberating practices of midlife

• And a more.

If you're tired of feeling like you should be doing more, fixing more, achieving more or somehow becoming a better version of yourself before you're allowed to enjoy your life…

Consider this your permission slip.

I'd love to hear how this lands for you, please reply to this email and let me know!!

Cheers to Snudging Y'all!!

Much love,
Amanda