In this episode, Amanda and CJ explores the significant decline in sex among couples after having children, highlighting the various factors contributing to this change, including fatigue, caregiving demands, and shifts in couple dynamics.

Takeaways

* A lot of studies show that couples' sex life tends to decline after having kids.

* Fatigue, sleep disruption, and caregiving demands contribute to this decline.

* Change in roles and less couple time affects intimacy.

* As much as 60% of married couples report a decrease in sexual frequency after having kids.

* 30% say that sex has become less satisfying in the last five years after having kids.

* The decline in sexual frequency is a significant issue for many couples.

* Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining intimacy.

* Couples need to find ways to reconnect after having children.

* Communication is key to addressing sexual satisfaction.

* Support systems can help couples navigate these challenges.

Podcast Recommendation: Motherhood Sessions: 2 Years Without Sex : https://open.spotify.com/episode/4oQ1SbW6yVw6ILUhixUeOs?si=m0Nn1kC5RraRBG6mYl2bRA

Book Recommendation: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Ester Perel

In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ explore the profound identity shifts that accompany motherhood, particularly for those parenting abroad. They discuss personal experiences, the evolution of relationships, the importance of community support, and strategies for reclaiming one's identity amidst the challenges of motherhood. The conversation emphasizes that while the journey can be difficult, it ultimately leads to personal growth and a new understanding of self.

Takeaways

* Becoming a parent reshapes your identity in profound ways.

* Motherhood abroad adds layers of complexity to identity shifts.

* It's common to feel a sense of loss regarding your old self.

* The transition into motherhood often involves grief for your previous life.

* Community support is crucial for navigating motherhood.

* Reclaiming your identity is a step-by-step process.

* Relationships with partners and friends evolve after having children.

* Self-care practices, like meditation, can help in the transition.

* Understanding that motherhood is an evolution can provide relief.

* You're not alone in feeling lost; it's a shared experience among mothers.

Podcast recommendation:

This is Actually Happening (by Wondery)

Book recommendation: Boy mom (by Ruth Whippman)

Link to the podcast episode referred to: https://open.spotify.com/episode/26KSGRz0cYTubqqnp366d5?si=UynpSCuUS3ycpPzBhmursA

Amanda and CJ discusses how their New Years ritual unfolded and how they feel about the wish they are responsible for (listen to the holiday special episode for context). CJ also shares her considerations regarding having another child.

Podcast recommendations:

Dr. Death (from Wondery)

A Little Bit Culty

The Daily (from New York Times)