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In this episode, Dr. Tamara Fackrell and Jake share the “secret sauce” behind their strongest seasons of connection: a simple, repeatable marital retreat. Borrowing the best parts of business off-sites, they walk through how getting away for 1–2 nights creates space to dream, reconnect, and work on your relationship—not just in it.

You’ll learn their 10–2 method (ten affirmations to two growth items) that keeps feedback gentle and loving, why the 5:1 positivity ratio matters, and their FREE framework that makes retreats Fun, Romantic, Exciting, and Effective. They also unpack how to build a shared vision (purpose, mission, values/pillars), set meaningful goals (think bucket lists and OKRs), review wins from the last quarter, and weave in lots of play and sexual intimacy—because joy fuels change.

What you’ll take away

• A step-by-step retreat rhythm you can copy this weekend
• The 10–2 conversation that keeps hard topics safe
• How to craft family pillars (your culture) and a motivating mission
• Practical cadence ideas (birthdays, anniversary, plus one more each year)

Resources mentioned: free worksheets and tools at mindfulmarriage.love.
Make it a date: plan your first (or next) retreat and taste the secret sauce for yourselves.