If you’ve been telling yourself you’re “healing,” I want you to pause for a moment—because this episode is about the uncomfortable line between doing the work and avoiding it.

In this conversation, I break down how emotional availability has turned into a buzzword in modern dating, and how a lot of people have started confusing avoidance with growth. We talk about emotional laziness—what it actually looks like, why it’s so common, and how it quietly damages connection.

I walk you through:

• What emotional availability really is (and what it isn’t)

• Why healing doesn’t mean disappearing, disengaging, or withholding effort

• How emotional laziness shows up in dating—even when it sounds reasonable

• Why having “capacity” without action doesn’t count

• How to tell if you—or the person you’re dating—are healing… or hiding

This episode isn’t about shaming you. It’s about helping you get honest with yourself and take responsibility for how you show up in relationships.

You don’t need to rush.
You don’t need to be perfect.
But if you want real connection, you do need to show up—consistently, clearly, and honestly.

Move slowly if you need to.
But move honestly.

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