If you’ve ever wondered why good relationships quietly fade, this conversation will change how you lead, sell, and show up. We sit down with speaker and author Barb Betts to unpack a simple truth: relationships don’t fail overnight—they drift when we stop being intentional. Starting with the inner game, Barb reframes self-doubt and imposter syndrome as signs you’re stretching into growth, not proof that you’re a fraud. By 85, you’ll spend roughly 44 million minutes with yourself; the way you speak to you becomes the template for every other connection.

We move from mindset to method with Barb’s VVR factor: visibility, vulnerability, and relatability. Show up consistently, be human without oversharing, and find a real point of common ground. Then apply a Relationship Operating System that ranks your most important people, sets a contact cadence, and uses the five by five method—five genuine, no-ask messages to five people a day—to prevent drift. Barb shares a personal story of nearly losing a 24-year friendship and how simple, consistent touchpoints would have saved months of hurt.

• redefining self-doubt and imposter syndrome as growth signals
• VVR factor: visibility, vulnerability, relatability
• preventing drift with a relationship operating system
• five by five daily outreach method with no asks
• ranking relationships and setting contact frequency
• why everyone is in sales because sales is influence
• building trust accounts and making deposits before withdrawals
• making people feel known, not just counted
• where AI helps and where it can’t
• practical tools: CRM, sheets, top 100 list

Sales leaders will appreciate her broader frame: sales is influence, and everyone sells. The goal isn’t how many people you know; it’s how many feel known by you. That shift boosts referrals, deepens trust, and turns your name on someone’s phone into a call they can’t wait to answer. We also get practical about tools—CRMs, Google Sheets, even AI for drafting and organizing—while drawing a hard line where tech can’t replace a voice note, phone call, or handwritten card.

If you’re ready to stop relying on “let’s get together soon” and start building relationships before you need them, this episode offers a playbook you can use today. If it resonates, follow Barb, send those five messages, and tell us who you’re reconnecting with. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs this nudge, and leave a quick review to help others find the show.

𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 Barb Betts:👇
➡️ 𝐋𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐝𝐈𝐧 (primary): https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbbetts/
➡️ 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐓𝐮𝐛𝐞: https://www.youtube.com/@BarbBetts
➡️ 𝐖𝐞𝐛𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞: https://www.barbbetts.com/
➡️ 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤: https://www.barbbetts.com/book-barb

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