In this deeply moving conversation, Julian Jakobs opens up about a life marked by sweeping transitions, heartfelt connections, and painful disconnections — and how each of these shaped the man he is today. From a childhood spent across Indonesia and Papua New Guinea to the isolation of boarding school in Sydney, Julian shares moments of joy, loss, resilience, and reflection. His journey through marriage, fatherhood, estrangement, and rediscovery — including a letter to his estranged children — reveals the raw emotional terrain of what it means to be human. Carolyn holds the space beautifully, allowing Julian’s quiet wisdom and emotional generosity to shine. This is a powerful, authentic conversation about love, memory, and the hope that connection can be restored.

⏱️ Episode Breakdown

00:00 – Welcome & Introduction
Carolyn sets the tone for the show, introducing Julian Jacobs and the theme of connection vs. disconnection.

03:00 – Early Childhood Across Continents
Julian recalls his nomadic early life in Sumatra, Papua New Guinea, and Australia. Vivid memories of playing in creeks and bonding with local children show his early affinity for connection.

10:00 – Boarding School and Emotional Isolation
At age nine, Julian is sent to boarding school. He shares his pain of separation, homesickness, and how he coped — from letter writing to friendships that spanned decades.

20:30 – The Power of Lifelong Friendships
Reconnecting with childhood friends like Conrad and a beloved teacher 45 years later, Julian reflects on why reconnection matters more as we age.

27:00 – Complex Parental Dynamics
Julian discusses his distant relationship with his father and the painful memories of sailing together — a missed opportunity for bonding.

35:00 – Love, Marriage, and Divorce
Julian details his two marriages — the first ending in heartbreak, the second in emotional estrangement. He reflects honestly on red flags he ignored and how longing for stability shaped his choices.

42:00 – Estrangement from His Children
In a heartbreaking segment, Julian opens up about the 12-year estrangement from his daughter and more recent distancing from his son. He reads a letter to them — raw, loving, and hopeful.

50:00 – Coping with Grief and Loss
Julian shares the tools that have helped him cope: compartmentalizing pain, staying active, and receiving counseling.

53:00 – A New Chapter with Judy
Finding true connection later in life, Julian speaks joyfully about his partner Judy and the authentic love they now share.

57:00 – Reflections on Life and Legacy
Julian offers powerful insights on making the most of each day, living honestly, and the healing power of human connection.

60:00 – Closing Thoughts
Carolyn reflects on the emotional depth of Julian’s story, expressing gratitude for his openness and courage.

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