Ever had a life event hit so hard it didn’t just break your plans… it broke your identity? In this episode, Brandi sits down with Geoff Pirnie to talk about what happens when divorce, grief, or any major “mind-F moment” forces you to stop performing and start telling the truth.

Together, they unpack perfectionism as a nervous-system survival strategy (aka: “I’m fine” is sometimes just a stress response in a cute outfit), why people rush into the next relationship to fill the void, and how real healing requires accountability without turning healing into… another perfectionist project.

Geoff shares the surprising moment he “met” his inner child (yes, even the logical guys can have a spiritual plot twist), and Brandi connects the dots between childhood wiring, control, achievement, and the exhausting need to be chosen. The takeaway: pain isn’t proof you’re broken — it’s a map. And the goal isn’t to become flawless. It’s to live in alignment with your values, not your wounds.

You can find Geoff along with his free download on Instagram @geoffreypirnie and download his roadmap: "The Phases of Rebuilding Yourself"

Core topics: perfectionism, trauma healing, nervous system regulation, emotional healing, divorce recovery, grief stages, identity shift, inner child healing, accountability, self-reflection, therapy, somatic awareness, parts work (IFS), shame, control, validation, authenticity, self-worth, emotional regulation, healing journey, Christian healing, faith and healing, values vs wounds, healthy relationships, emotionally available partner, attachment patterns, relationship patterns, rebuilding after divorce