Episode Description:
In part one of this three-part series, Dr. Tom Lombardo reflects on the experiences that shaped his lifelong curiosity about time, history, and the future. From childhood fascinations with dinosaurs and the Civil War to formative lessons learned through weightlifting, mentorship, and education, Tom explores how character, discipline, and imagination form the foundation for wisdom.

Key Topics:
- Learning from the past to understand the present
- Mentorship and finding your own voice
- Discipline, character, and creativity
- Why imagination matters for future thinking

Find Dr. Lombardo's work on his website at: https://centerforfutureconsciousness.com/

In this episode of the Engaged By Design Podcast, we welcome back Kathy Hagler and Robin Graham, co-authors of The ABCs of Murmuration.

Together, we explore Flock Logic—a powerful nature-inspired framework drawn from the mesmerizing behavior of starlings—and how it applies to leadership, teamwork, and learning organizations.

You’ll discover:

• Why high-functioning groups don’t need a single leader to move together
• The three natural principles behind murmuration: alignment, separation, and cohesion
• How those principles translate into human leadership behaviors: step up, step back, and step together
• Why trust, awareness, and connection matter more than control
• Simple practices leaders and educators can use immediately to create rhythm, flow, and shared responsibility

If you’re navigating uncertainty, change, or collaboration fatigue, this conversation offers a hopeful and practical path forward—one grounded in nature, humanity, and collective wisdom.

Podcast: Engaged By Design
Episode: Part 3 — Becoming Happy Now
Guest: Dr. Sylvia Nemmers — scientist, educator, department chair, survivor, and author of Happy Now.

Episode Summary

In this powerful final chapter of her story, Dr. Sylvia Nemmers discusses what it means to truly know yourself, especially after life has shaken the identity you’ve relied on. She describes the quiet courage of rebuilding life after an abusive marriage, the freedom and grounding she found living alone by the ocean, and the transformative experience of training with a guide dog—a moment that marked her return to visibility, agency, and authenticity.

Sylvia shares what “Happy Now” really means: not perfection, not the absence of struggle, but a steady alignment between truth and peace. She reflects on fearlessness—its strengths and its risks—and how she learned the difference between courage and recklessness. Her story reminds listeners that healing isn’t a single breakthrough. It’s a lifelong practice of listening inward, choosing authenticity, and allowing yourself to be seen.

Key Topics

• Reclaiming Identity After Trauma
  – Leaving an abusive marriage
  – Discovering safety, solitude, and inner listening
  – Unlearning fear-based habits
• Training with a Guide Dog
  – Choosing visibility after years of “not acting blind”
  – The emotional work of becoming independent again
  – Learning to trust herself as much as the dog
• Fearlessness vs Recklessness
  – Being named one of Iowa’s “Fearless Women”
  – The shadow side of fearlessness: pushing too hard, too far
  – Learning discernment and emotional boundaries
• Defining “Happy Now”
  – Happiness as alignment, not accomplishment
  – Peace as a practice
  – Choosing joy without ignoring pain
• Identity, Truth, and Leadership
  – What authenticity looks like in adulthood
  – Saying “no” to roles that shrink your voice
  – Using your story to empower others

Quotes

• “Spending time with myself, I realized: that doesn’t define who I am.”
• “If I'm everybody’s favorite flavor, am I my own favorite flavor anymore?”
• “I can’t do it the way everyone else does it — but I can figure out my own way, and that’s okay.”
• “Everything is possible — if you have the desire, the time, and the commitment.”

Reflection Question

Where in your life are you being invited to choose authenticity over expectation?

Resources

• Book: Happy Now — Shattering the Myth of Happily Ever After (Amazon - https://amzn.to/49PHHYZ).
• Sylvia’s speaking & consulting: BeyondLimits.cc.
• Engaged By Design: MACRO Leadership resources.