Who makes the plans? Who sends the texts, organizes the get-togethers, and keeps everyone connected? And what happens when that effort starts to feel one-sided?

In this solo episode, Jacqueline explores the invisible work of maintaining friendships, family relationships, and meaningful connections—and why showing up for each other matters more than we sometimes realize.

From being the planner in some relationships to happily accepting invitations in others, Jacqueline shares her own experiences with the mental load of connection, the desire to feel thought of, and the friendships that quietly fade when the effort stops being reciprocated.

She also reflects on what building Her Village has taught her about adult friendships: creating opportunities to connect is only the beginning. Genuine relationships grow when we make the effort to show up, say yes, reach out, and keep coming back.

In this episode:

• The invisible work of being the planner and social calendar keeper
• Why we play different roles in different relationships
• The difference between making plans and wanting to feel chosen
• Why some friendships fade without a falling-out
• The importance of saying yes and making room for connection
• How showing up consistently can turn acquaintances into genuine friendships

A little challenge this week: Think of someone you've been meaning to connect with—and be the one to reach out. Sometimes one simple invitation can mean more than we realize.

🌻 Find your village: If you're in the Naperville area, learn more about Her Village gatherings, experiences, and membership at https://hervillage.kit.com/naperville.

Let's keep the conversation going! I'd love to hear your thoughts on friendship, making plans, and showing up for each other.

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