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Divorcing Strong

Divorcing Strong

Di: Becky Sampson
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Divorcing Strong™ is the essential playbook for anyone navigating the legal chaos and emotional trauma of ending a marriage. Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, this podcast bridges the gap between high-conflict courtroom battles and the deep inner work of healing after divorce. If you are dealing with a high conflict divorce, facing narcissistic abuse, or trying to co-parent with a covert narcissist, you are not alone. We go beyond generic advice to tackle the tough realities of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Each week, Becky brings you honest, unfiltered conversations with top divorce attorneys, family law experts, and mental health professionals. We cover critical topics including child custody battles, financial independence, and rebuilding your identity. Whether you are just starting the process or are years post-separation, join us to transform your pain into power. Learn how to set ironclad boundaries, protect your peace from narcissistic tactics, and move forward with confidence.Copyright 2026 Genitorialità e famiglie Igiene e vita sana Psicologia Psicologia e salute mentale Relazioni Scienze sociali
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  • S1:E39 – Cost of Divorce: Family Law Attorney Scott Levin on Peaceful Divorce, Divorcing a Narcissist & Healing After Divorce

    S1:E39 – Cost of Divorce: Family Law Attorney Scott Levin on Peaceful Divorce, Divorcing a Narcissist & Healing After Divorce
    May 21 2026
    What if fighting harder in your divorce isn't protecting you — it's bankrupting you? What if the legal system designed to resolve your conflict is actually engineered to escalate it? And what if choosing peace isn't weakness — it's the most powerful financial move you can make? Becky Sampson sits down with Scott Levin, widely known as the Chief Peacekeeper — a family law attorney, mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) who has spent 16 years watching couples hand over six figures to a court system that gives them outcomes their families can barely survive. In 2013, after one final case that broke what was left of his belief in litigation, Scott switched overnight — walking away from a full litigation practice to commit entirely to mediation. He hasn't been attorney of record in a courtroom since. His wife joined the practice as a certified co-parenting specialist and co-mediator, making theirs one of the few husband-and-wife teams in family law that brings both the numbers and the heart to every session. Today, Scott's practice is built on a single conviction: divorce is fundamentally a math problem — assets, debts, division — and it's not nearly as complicated as the court system needs you to believe it is. If you're staring at a legal bill and wondering whether there's another way — this is the episode that changes how you see every decision ahead of you. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The $100K mistake most divorcing couples make — why choosing the courtroom over the conference room is the most expensive financial decision of your entire divorce, and the specific cost dynamics that Scott walks every new client through before they hire anyoneWhy "divorce mediation" has zero search volume — but costs you everything — the gap between what the internet tells you to search for and what family law actually looks like when it works, and why the peaceful path is both cheaper and more sustainableThe litigator-who-mediates trap — why hiring a family law attorney who litigates cases AND mediates on the side is one of the most common and expensive mistakes divorcing couples make; what happens to your 2 pm mediation appointment when opposing counsel files an emergency hearingHow divorce is really just a math problem — Scott's finance-first approach to asset division: cataloging the full pie, assigning values, identifying hidden transfers, and finding the five to seven creative ways to divide everything — without unnecessary taxes, penalties, or feesCreative solutions the court system will never offer you — the settlement Scott achieves almost every week that makes his litigating colleagues say "that's insane" — and why 16 years of zero disasters says they're wrongCan you mediate with a narcissist? — Scott's direct answer, why it's not the automatic "no" most people expect, and the critical distinction between a narcissist who wants the case resolved and one who doesn't — and how your strategy changes completely depending on which one you're dealing withWhy antagonizing a narcissist in court is the single worst move you can make — what Scott has watched happen case after case when attorneys take an adversarial posture with a high-conflict spouse, and why the narcissist will "fight to the death" the moment they feel corneredThe "problem perpetuator" attorney — Scott's honest taxonomy of family law attorneys: those who are genuinely passionate, those who have no other options, and those who have zero intention of resolving anything — and the red flags that tell you which one you're sitting across from in the consultationDon't marry the first divorce attorney you meet — why Becky's signature phrase and Scott's 16 years of watching families get derailed by the wrong advisor are two sides of the same warning, and the specific questions to ask before you sign anythingWhy 90% of Scott's mediations have no attorneys in the room — and what that says about how much you can actually accomplish when two adults and two skilled mediators are working toward the same goal without outside counsel taking all the oxygenHis wife as co-mediator and certified co-parenting specialist — how the husband-and-wife dynamic in Scott's practice covers both the financial architecture of the divorce AND the emotional scaffolding of what comes after, particularly for families with childrenScott's personal story — a child of a bitter court fight who went into family law as his therapy, and the one final case that convinced him, overnight, that litigation was never the answer he thought it was 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Scott Levin: Scott Levin is a family law attorney, mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) known professionally as the Chief Peacekeeper. After spending years in family law litigation and watching families pay exorbitant legal fees for outcomes they could barely live...
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    47 min
  • S1:E38 – Sell Your Home in Divorce: Amy Slate "The Breakup Broker" on Marital Home Mistakes, Divorce Advice & Healing After Divorce

    S1:E38 – Sell Your Home in Divorce: Amy Slate "The Breakup Broker" on Marital Home Mistakes, Divorce Advice & Healing After Divorce
    May 19 2026
    The house isn't just brick and mortar. It's 20 years of Christmases, your kids' height marks on the door frame, and the biggest financial asset you own. And in a divorce, it's also the decision that can quietly define the next two decades of your financial life — if you let fear, urgency, or the wrong realtor rush you into the wrong choice. Becky Sampson sits down with Amy Slate, realtor and creator of The Breakup Broker, to deliver the divorce real estate playbook every woman needs before she touches anything. A former educator with nearly two decades in the classroom who pivoted to a thriving nine-year real estate career — and then navigated her own divorce involving multiple properties across the country and internationally — Amy brings something no ordinary realtor can: she has lived the confusion, the pressure, and the emotional weight of this exact decision from the inside. Her specialty is helping women slow down when everything around them is screaming "decide now," and walk away from the process feeling informed, empowered, and in control of one of the biggest turning points of their lives. If you're staring at your house wondering whether to keep it, sell it, or fight for it — this is the conversation to have before you decide anything. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The 3-bucket framework that changes everything — Amy's signature approach to every divorce real estate conversation: Logistics (is this house near your kids' school, your work, your support system?), Finances (do the numbers actually work?), and Emotions (do you even want to stay here?) — and why skipping even one bucket leads women into decisions they regretWhy "I know I have to sell" is almost never true — the most common assumption Amy hears from women who've been stay-at-home moms, and the conversation that changes their minds before they give up something they could have keptThe emotional home trap — the difference between a woman who says "we've had every Christmas here for 20 years, I can't imagine leaving" and the woman who says "I want to burn it to the ground" — and why both deserve the same careful, numbers-first conversation before they commitThe ambulance-chasing realtor problem — why "oh, you're getting divorced? Someone must need to sell a house" is not a divorce real estate strategy, and the very specific questions to ask any realtor before you trust them with this transactionWhat happens when your spouse refuses to cooperate on the sale — how court orders, motions, and judicial timelines can force an uncooperative spouse into the transaction, and why most women don't know this tool exists until it's too lateThe cookie-cutting approach to agent selection — why Amy always insists both spouses pick the realtor together (I'll cut it in half — but you pick which half), and how this single step removes one of the biggest sources of conflict in the entire sale processWhose name is on the deed — and why it matters more than you think — Amy's direct advice to every woman who is contributing to a home but hasn't secured her name on the legal paperworkMoving out of the marital home — does it cost you your share? — what the deed actually says versus what fear tells most women, and Amy's practical answer to one of the most anxiety-producing questions in divorceInternational and multi-property divorce — the added layer of complexity when the marital estate includes rental properties, investment properties, or real estate held across state lines or internationally, and how Amy navigated this in her own casePanic selling vs. strategic timing — why the impulse to "just get it done" during the emotional chaos of divorce is one of the most expensive instincts a woman can follow, and how Amy helps clients find the window between rushing and waiting too longThe shoulder-drop moment — what Amy says happens on almost every consultation call when a woman who has been drowning in lingo, numbers, and pressure finally gets someone to calmly walk her through it — and why that exhale is the beginning of every good decision 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Amy Slate: Amy Slate is a realtor and the creator of The Breakup Broker, a platform and practice dedicated to helping women navigate buying or selling a home during or after divorce — when emotions are high, the stakes are deeply personal, and the decisions being made will echo for decades. A former educator with nearly 20 years in the classroom and at the university level, Amy brought her core belief in education and empowerment into a nine-year real estate career built on listening first and selling second. When her own unexpected divorce forced her to navigate multiple properties across the country and internationally while simultaneously helping her clients through the same process, she recognized the gap: women going through divorce desperately needed a neutral, ...
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    33 min
  • S1:E37 – Family Court Is Broken: Former Divorce Lawyer Amanda Mason on Attorney Red Flags, Divorce Advice & Healing After Divorce

    S1:E37 – Family Court Is Broken: Former Divorce Lawyer Amanda Mason on Attorney Red Flags, Divorce Advice & Healing After Divorce
    May 14 2026
    What if the system designed to resolve your divorce is actually the thing making it worse? And what if your own attorney — no matter how good they are — is hardwired by that system to turn your family into a battlefield? Becky Sampson sits down with Amanda Mason, former family court litigator and co-founder of Solagree, to deliver one of the most honest conversations about the divorce legal system you will ever hear from someone who spent years thriving inside it. Amanda graduated from the University of Arizona College of Law in 2003, built a career as a divorce litigator fighting hard and winning cases — and then watched, case after case, as her clients walked out of court victorious and completely destroyed. Six years ago, she did something almost unheard of in her profession: she stopped. She stepped back, studied every alternative to the adversarial model, and built something entirely new. Solagree is a nationwide non-adversarial divorce model — a three-phase process designed to resolve even the most complex family conflicts with integrity, clarity, and dramatically less collateral damage. Amanda still practices traditional litigation. She knows both worlds. And what she has to say about the one most women are currently in will change how you look at every decision in your divorce process. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why winning in family court doesn't mean winning — the case Amanda couldn't shake, where her client walked out victorious and still lost everything that mattered, and the moment she realized the adversarial system is structurally incapable of protecting familiesHow the family court system is broken by design — not because judges and attorneys are bad people, but because an overworked government bureaucracy processing people on their absolute worst day produces predictable, devastating resultsThe litigator brain problem — why even the most compassionate divorce attorney is hardwired by litigation training to get into "somebody versus somebody, I have to win" mode, and what that does to your family's chances of a reasonable outcomeHow your attorney can make your divorce more expensive without meaning to — the dynamic where opposing counsel fight each other more than they fight for you, and Amanda's account of couples who walked away after a high-conflict court battle saying "that was completely unnecessary"The two biggest threats in any divorce negotiation — and why as long as either party can blow up the process and run to court, everyone stays in fight-or-flight mode and rational decisions become almost impossibleWhat Solagree does differently — a three-phase non-adversarial process that removes the courtroom threat, brings in a neutral guide, and gives attorneys a way to practice family law that is better for their clients, better for their mental health, and better for the professionWhy Amanda created Solagree as a gift to other attorneys — the mental health strain, the substance abuse, the burnout, and even the suicides that have plagued family law litigators — and why giving good people a better process was as important to her as helping the familiesThe obstructionist attorney problem — when opposing counsel adopts their client's emotional position instead of giving objective legal advice, and how to spot the difference between an attorney fighting FOR you versus an attorney fighting because of youAmanda's personal divorce experience — a practicing attorney who went through her own 21-hearing, three-and-a-half-year court battle, representing herself for most of it, and what she learned about the difference between advocating and fightingBecky's own family court journey — a rare personal disclosure about her own 21 hearings, and why both women agree that the adversarial system is the last place families should be resolving conflictHow to choose your divorce path wisely — what questions to ask, what red flags to watch for in a prospective attorney, and when the non-adversarial model is the right choice — even in high-conflict situations 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Amanda Mason: Amanda Mason is a co-founder and CEO of Solagree, a nationwide non-adversarial divorce resolution model that gives families a way to resolve conflict with integrity, clarity, and far less collateral damage than the traditional court system. A graduate of the University of Arizona College of Law (2003), Amanda spent years as a highly effective family court litigator — winning cases and watching families lose anyway. That contradiction drove her to study every alternative dispute resolution method available, identify what was working, identify the gaps, and design something new from the ground up. Solagree is that design — a three-phase process that removes the courtroom threat, reduces fight-or-flight dynamics, and allows both attorneys and clients to bring their best selves to one of the...
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    37 min
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