Bill Cooper joins the table to share stories of his father, Frank, a British-born radiologist with an adventurous spirit and a questionable approach to home maintenance. From the perils of unlabeled dish soap to the specific comfort of blaring classical music, this episode explores the "unqualified but willing" nature of fatherhood and the quiet resilience found in keeping family traditions alive.
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Chapters:
00:00 Why We Talk About Our Dads (and the Not-a-Therapist Disclaimer)
00:54 Meet Today’s Guest: Bill Cooper, Fellow Hockey Dad
02:30 Quickfire Get-to-Know-You: Music, Comfort Habits & Napping
04:05 Fix-It Philosophy: ‘Unqualified but Willing’ Home Repairs
05:27 Introducing Frank Cooper: Names, Roots & Moving from England to Canada
06:29 Adventurous Spirit & Mischief: Camping Trips and Family Pranks
09:39 The Side of Him You Might Not Know: Classical Music at Full Volume
10:30 How He Passed: Lewy Body Dementia, Paranoia, and the Final Episode
13:32 Saying Goodbye Without Lucidity: The Last Days and a Birthday in Palliative Care
15:23 The First Days After He Passed: Who Handles What?
16:26 Staying Busy to Cope: Work, the Call, and Keeping It Together
18:01 Family Weekend Ceremony: Small Tasks That Help You Grieve
18:35 How the Kids Took It: Grandkids, Support, and Showing Emotion
19:43 Keeping Frank’s Memory Alive Through Family Meals & Stories
20:59 The Classic Camping Story: Dish Soap in the Nasal Spray
22:10 What You Inherit After Loss: Laughs, Humming, and Dad’s Traits
24:19 Why Grief Looks Different: Resilience, Guilt, and No Rulebook
28:05 Mortality & Perspective Shifts: Losing a Job, Watching Your Kids Grow
29:13 Advice, What You Miss Most, and Closing the Episode