Do women actually like nice guys? Is there something to be said for friend-zoning women? And are we missing out on daily opportunities to meet people?

This is part 2 of Lulu's chat with Dating Coach James Slate.

They talk about why boring questions can kill attraction, how to flirt without cheesy pickup lines, the difference between day game and night game, and why James believes you should always aim for “better than boring.

James also shares how facing his own fears around approaching people led to his dating meetups, coaching and Vibing — and why rejection doesn't necessarily mean failure.

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Berlin’s sex and dating scene is a LOT. And if you’ve ever wondered what actually goes on behind the private parties, dark rooms, apps, and afterparties… this episode gets into it.

I’m joined by Joss, aka Book Daddy, who has been living in Berlin since 2016 and has experienced plenty of the city’s more hedonistic corners. He now writes about queer dating, sex and nightlife from the inside — including his ongoing project The Broken Boys Club.

We chat about why sex in Berlin can feel incredibly easy to find, while actual connection can feel weirdly difficult. We get into private parties, “DL” spaces, chemsex, afterparties, dating apps, sobriety, emotional availability, and the difference between having endless options and actually finding someone you want to build something with.

And yes, there are some VERY Berlin stories along the way.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why Berlin is the easiest place in the world to find a hookup — but not necessarily a relationship

• What actually goes on at private parties and how the unspoken rules work

• “DL” spaces, chemsex and afterparties in Berlin’s queer nightlife

• How sobriety can completely change the way you date and connect

• The line between sex, intimacy and emotional availability

• How Joss became known as Book Daddy

• His writing and The Broken Boys Club

• What years of dating in Berlin have taught him about people, sex and relationships

It’s funny, honest, occasionally chaotic and definitely not your average conversation about dating.

Because maybe the problem with dating in Berlin isn’t that there aren’t enough people to meet. Maybe it’s that there are too many ways to connect without actually connecting.

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If you’ve ever wondered why dating feels so exhausting, why everyone seems either unavailable or complicated, or how comics turn disaster into material, this one is for you.

Perfect for anyone living in Berlin, dating in Berlin, or just fascinated by the beautiful mess of it all.

After her first appearance on the show in 2024 and racking up 53 first dates, The Dating Orange is back to prove that love still exists, having met her fiancée in the most unconventional way!

Lulu and Orange discuss dating-app burnout, the green flags to help you find love, and the difficulty of getting men to go to dating events,

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If you’ve ever wondered why dating feels so exhausting, why everyone seems either unavailable or complicated, or how comics turn disaster into material, this one is for you.

Perfect for anyone living in Berlin, dating in Berlin, or just fascinated by the beautiful mess of it all.

German-born, Cork-based comedian Daniel Lucas — better known online as **The Only Funny German** — joins Lulu Johnson for a very Irish conversation about comedy, dating, culture and building a life abroad.Daniel talks about moving from Germany to Cork, why he ended up staying, and how random thoughts turned into viral comedy videos.We get into the differences between **German and Irish humour**, Cork accents, dating in a small city, Irish culture, and what it’s actually like trying to build a creative career somewhere new.If you like **dating disasters, Irish banter, cultural differences, comedy and stories about starting over in another country**, this one's for you.🎙️ **Follow Daniel / The Only Funny German:**[The Only Funny German]

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From pu$$y eating competitions at Kikat club to men having to work harder to please women sexually, the raw honesty in this ep will have you laughing out loud with Berlin's sharpest and wittiest comedian, Tyrone Stallone.

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Lulu Johnson and Ivy-Jo are back on the couch, and as usual, nothing is off-limits.

Lulu opens up about going viral, laughing at troll comments about her nose rings, looks, age, and sex stories, and why the trolls are part of her success.

This episode is for anyone who loves dating horror stories, Berlin chaos, brutally honest friendship banter, and laugh-out-loud oversharing that somehow still leaves you feeling seen.

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Season 5 is coming back loud, funny, and a little bit feral.

Catch me on YouTube at 10 am Sept 6th, and on all other podcast platforms at 6 am Sept 9th.

Lulu Johnson returns with the story behind Dating, Laughter and Disasters - the book, the podcast, the live events, and the very personal reason she turned years of Berlin dating chaos into comedy that actually helps people.

This podcast matters because it's about more than just dating. It's about reclaiming your story, building something of your own, and finding laughter in the middle of the mess. If you love candid storytelling, sharp honesty, and an Irish voice that never takes itself too seriously, this is an easy one to press play on.

If you have ever wondered how to turn a messy love life into something useful, this one is for you. Lulu shares how an emotionally abusive relationship, years of hard-won self-awareness, and plenty of outrageous dating stories shaped her voice, her writing, and the show that now spans 130+ episodes.

She also breaks down how the podcast grew into live shows, matchmaking events, and a wider creative life that includes writing, content, and a growing audience across Berlin and beyond.

She talks honestly about loneliness, staying single on purpose, dating events, and why meeting people offline feels human again.

Perfect for anyone navigating modern dating, starting over, or looking for a creator who can make the chaos feel a little more survivable.

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