Too Much to Ask?

When you're a dad of a child with a disability, asking for support at work can feel like walking a tightrope.

In this episode, I share a personal story and perspectives about disclosing my family's needs in the workplace and how one employer said all the right things… until it got inconvenient.

We’ll talk about:

The silent stigma dads face in the workplace

What happens when “supportive” is just surface-level

The emotional cost of hiding what's really going on

The very real legal protections you have as a carer under Australian law

And practical advice for other dads navigating work, disclosure, and advocacy

This one is for the dads quietly carrying the load, and wondering if telling the truth will cost them their job.

Ever find yourself reacting before you even realise what you’re reacting to?

In this episode, I unpack a moment where I defaulted back into an old emotional thinking pattern taking things personally, called personalisation. It’s a cognitive distortion that creates reactions like snapping when I didn’t need to, and realising too late that it wasn’t about my wife… it was about me.

I talk about how these loops form, why they hit hardest at home, and how even after years of therapy and CBT, the old stuff can sneak back in when we’re tired, overwhelmed, or stretched too thin.

This is for any dad of a child of disability, partner, or human who’s ever thought: “I should’ve known better.”

You’re not alone. You’re just in the loop. Let’s find our way out, together.

After a long hiatus, I’m back.

Recorded in the car. No mic, no script, no polish. Just me, reflecting on the last 48 hours with Leo and the massive progress I didn’t know we’d made.

In this episode I reflect on two surprising experiences with my son Leo that reminded me just how far he’s come. From a night out at Sydney Zoo’s Glow event to a doctor’s appointment I was dreading, both moments showed me what real, hard-won progress looks like and how easy it is to miss it in the day-to-day.It made me realise: growth isn’t always visible until you try the hard thing again.

If you’re a parent in the thick of it, wondering if anything’s changing... it probably is. You just might not see it, yet.

As dads of children with disabilities, one of the hardest truths we need to face is the isolation and loneliness that comes with the territory of parenting a child with a disability.

In many ways your life as a disability parent may mirror your child’s own experiences, such as less friends, less places you go, more social anxiety, more reasons to stick to routine.

In this episode I confront the difficult reality of loneliness as a disability dad and share my perspective in the hope you can relate and it validates what’s going on in your reality as you are doing your best.

How can you try and be your best as a disability dad? Try starting by finding what works. For your child’s therapy, for their needs and most importantly for you as a dad.

Living by the code is a mantra that many people have adopted to guide their lives, and something that works for Peter. It’s a set of principles, values and beliefs that help him navigate through the man at challenges that come with disability parenting.

Peter shares why living his personal code, doing the work and ultimately “finding what works” is the real key to balance and happiness as a dad

There is the event itself and then there is the story we tell ourselves. Too often we exaggerate the story and get into unhealthy thinking patterns about our ability to stay calm and dela with challenges as das of kids with disabilities.

Perception precedes action. The right action follows the right perspective.

It is so easy in the day to day challenges of juggling dad responsibilities to let our internal judgements of events actually change how we perceive them.

What if you could use this knowledge to change all that and change your perception to then change your thoughts and actions for the better?

On the season 3 opener I share my experiences about a very relatable challenge we all face as dads of kids with disabilities in terms of navigating whether we choose the path of least resistance of the predictable world of routine or whether we brave the unknown exploration of the new unpredictable world to potetnially find other experiences our kids may enjoy just as much or even more.