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Loneliness is more than a feeling; it’s a health risk that can be compared to smoking a pack of cigarettes daily. We open up about why social connection is essential as we age and how to rebuild a circle of friends after big life changes like retirement, remote work, or losing a spouse.

Then, we sit down with Judy Sunderman, president of the Tulsa Newcomers Club, to explore a living blueprint for community that turns strangers into friends through simple, reliable touchpoints.

Judy shares the club’s post–World War II roots, why the model still works today, and how monthly luncheons with engaging speakers, 20-plus interest groups, and themed socials create daily opportunities to belong. From bridge and mahjong to walking groups, wine tastings, couples dinners, and a mid-day movie tradition, there’s something for every pace and personality.

We discuss practical options: Try-before-you-join events, low dues, simple sign-up through an app, and a welcoming culture that values listening, curiosity, and judgment-free conversation.

We also dig into what makes connection stick after 50: Repetition, shared interests, and gentle structure that lowers the barrier to showing up. You’ll hear how volunteering adds meaning and expands weak ties, why in-person beats screens for wellbeing, and how to scout or even start a group where you live. Whether you’re new to town or rediscovering your city after kids leave home, this conversation is packed with field-tested ideas to feel seen, useful, and connected again.

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