Should you get back together with your ex, or is this just familiarity pulling you back in? Before you say yes, there are a few questions worth slowing down and asking.

This episode is for anyone who’s considering getting back together with an ex and wants to do it differently this time.

As someone who did get back together with her ex and rebuilt a relationship rooted in repair, accountability, and understanding that a safe nervous system is a non-negotiable, I share the three core questions that helped me discern whether reconnecting was actually aligned, or just old patterns resurfacing.

This isn’t about convincing yourself to try again. It’s about slowing down, listening to your body, and making space for clarity instead of urgency.

What you’ll learn…

* The first question to ask before considering getting back together with an ex

* How to tell if your ex has actually changed or is just saying the right things

* Why old issues will come back (and how to plan for that honestly)

* What it means to rebuild trust through repair instead of avoidance

* How to stop over-functioning and let the other person meet you

This episode is for you if…

* You’re thinking about getting back together with an ex

* You’re afraid of repeating the same patterns

* You want clarity without rushing a decision

* You tend to over-function or take responsibility for both people

* You want a relationship rooted in repair, not chemistry alone

My invitation to you…

Take a moment to reflect on what this relationship is here to teach and show you. Write in the comments:

“This relationship is here to teach me…” and notice what comes through.

If this episode resonates, you’re invited to continue this work inside the Codependency Alchemy membership, where we practice self-trust, repair, and building healthy relationships together.

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What if nothing is wrong with you, you’re just being asked to hold two truths at the same time?

In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I explore polarity: the embodied experience of holding joy and grief, love and loss, fulfillment and longing—without collapsing, numbing, or forcing resolution.

Through a deeply personal story involving my great-grandmother, my fertility journey, and stepping onto a stage to share my life’s work, I share what polarity actually feels like in the body, and why learning to witness it instead of fixing it is profoundly healing.

What you’ll learn in this episode…

* What “holding polarity” really means (beyond the concept)

* How polarity shows up in relationships, grief, and identity

* The difference between thinking your feelings and witnessing them

* How witnessing yourself helps heal the mother wound

* Why acceptance isn’t giving up… it’s embodied truth

This episode is for you if…

* You feel emotionally overwhelmed by mixed feelings

* You’re holding joy and grief at the same time

* You struggle with overthinking instead of feeling

* You’re healing codependency, attachment wounds, or the mother wound

* You want to feel more grounded and self-trusting in uncertainty

Your invitation…

As you listen, consider: What polarity am I being asked to hold right now?

Name the two opposing experiences without judging them. I invite you to share your reflections in the comments.

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If this episode resonates, you’re invited to join the Codependency Alchemy membership— a space where we practice witnessing the parts of us we neglect, or reject, building safety in our bodies through nervous system and somatic work, and generational healing together.

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I hope you all have a restful and nourishing winter, and hopefully I’ll see you in the Codependency Alchemy membership!

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