In this episode of How to Deal When the Shit Gets Real, Jenn and I talk about closure, what it means to each of us, and whether we actually need it in order to move forward.

We're often taught that healing requires one final conversation, an explanation, or an apology. But what happens when that conversation never comes? Or worse, when you finally get the answers you've been waiting for and they don't make you feel any better?

We talk about why closure may be overrated, the difference between getting answers and actually healing, and why sometimes the person who hurt you simply isn't capable of giving you what you're looking for.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What closure means to us
• Why we crave answers after being hurt
• Waiting for an apology that may never come
• Why getting answers doesn't always bring peace
• Accepting that you may never know why
• How our brains fill in the blanks when we don't have answers
• Why closure doesn't mean forgetting
• Whether forgiveness is actually necessary to move on
• Creating your own closure
• Letting go of the need for someone else to understand your pain
• Choosing peace instead of continuing to search for answers

Sometimes closure isn't getting the explanation you wanted. It's reaching the point where you realize you don't need one anymore.

This conversation is about letting go of the idea that someone else has to give you permission to heal and recognizing that sometimes, moving forward is the closure.