Introducing the social saints, martyrs, selfless, helpful beings of friend groups, communities, family gatherings and work...

Well, they pretend to be all that and 12 bags of chips.

It's about the rep, praise and admiration for the acts of moral good deeds and kindness.

The portrayal of being the martyr without wanting anything in return.

The saint who goes above and beyond to help his fellow man.

Sounds like a superhero, a righteous and just human committing selfless acts for all of humanity.

Not to say that there are not people who go above and beyond to commit selfless acts for others...

BUT

In the case of abusive narcissists, sorry to break it to everyone,

it's all smoke and mirrors...

illusions...

delusions...

it leaves the victims of narcissistic abuse in a state of confusion, self-doubt, and codependency

the communal narcissist builds his/her status to being a great human being so when the victims and survivors call them out on it or speak up about the abuse no one believes them, no one will question them about what happened to them, and they defend (hello flying monkeys) the narcissist because they are always kind, helpful, and portray themselves as the perfect spouse and/or parent.

It happened to me, is still happening as far as my kid situation. Please take a listen. It is obvious this is not AI.

Thanks for listening and may this reach those who need and want to hear it.

-AJ