We reconnect with Vanessa Bennett to talk about rebuilding life after wildfire loss, moving to Costa Rica with a young child, and what it takes to create real community when your nervous system is fried. We also get brutally honest about accountability, shame, and why desire alone does not equal relationship capacity.
• moving abroad as a family and choosing a bilingual education
• compassion fatigue after trauma and pulling back to heal
• rent gouging, ethics, and the stories people tell to avoid accountability
• parenting through the shame stage and separating behavior from identity
• conflict patterns, defensiveness, and setting boundaries without cruelty
• nervous system alignment as a predictor of compatibility
• desire versus capacity and what change actually requires
• reciprocal care, gift economy thinking, and letting misaligned relationships fade
• Vanessa’s work, The Motherhood Myth, and the Intercompass Academy depth psychology training

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Nico Barraza
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