In this episode of the Recovering Us Podcast, hosts Sandra and Dan discuss the importance of safe communication in relationships, particularly for couples affected by addiction, dysfunction, and trauma. They share their experiences and tools for creating a safe space for dialogue, emphasizing the need for agreements that outline respectful communication practices. The episode covers identifying dysfunctional communication patterns, developing a communication agreement, and the importance of implementing and using these agreements effectively. The hosts also address challenges that may arise when trying to adhere to these agreements, offering insights on how to navigate difficulties in communication.

Takeaways

• Safe communication is essential for a healthy relationship.
• Creating agreements helps establish a safe space for dialogue.
• Informed consent is crucial in communication.
• Dysfunctional communication patterns can harm relationships.
• Using 'we' language fosters collaboration in problem-solving.
• Agreements should be written and signed for accountability.
• Regularly revisiting agreements can reinforce their effectiveness.
• Ending conversations with appreciation promotes positivity.
• It's important to address challenges when agreements aren't working.
• No one is perfect; it's okay to ask for do-overs.

Sound bites

• "We deserve to have informed consent."
• "We are allies on the same team."
• "It only works if we use it."

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction to Recovering Us Podcast
• 01:00 The Importance of Safe Communication
• 08:55 Creating Agreements for Healthy Communication
• 25:58 Implementing and Using Communication Agreements
• 42:55 Addressing Challenges with Agreements