If there’s one thing blocking you from love in your life, it’s this: being the “cool girl” (or guy).

Nothing amazing that I’ve attracted in life came from being nonchalant - it came from being unapologetic…and a little delusional. In this episode, I touch on the people-pleasing identity I carried for years and the pride I carried for staying chill and unbothered. How what I feel and expressing it fully (after all - I am a Pisces!) has changed my relationships, my dating life, and the way I show up for myself and my values.

We explore the difference between being desired and being valued, why we often gaslight ourselves before anyone else does, and how radical honesty must become the foundation for self worth. Learn how being “low-maintenance” is just a fancy costume for self-betrayal and the beautiful love and honoring that came in once I stopped performing and started living in deeper truth.

Highlights:

(02:12) When (and why) I decided never to be the cool girl again

(02:53) Why low maintenance is often code for self betrayal

(4:51) Desire vs value and how I learned to spot the difference

(14:55) Radical honesty and breaking the habit of gaslighting ourselves

(16:44) My soulmate journal and where I was going wrong

(23:55) A coaching session that woke me up to my own BS

Listen to SJ’s Coaching Session with Relationship Coach, Christine Hassler: Maybe There Isn’t a Problem At All

Check out Christine Hassler and her program, Be The Queen

Resources:

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