Hey Believers, Marriage was never designed to include constant interference, divided loyalty, or forced relationships with extended family. In this video, we have an honest and respectful conversation about protecting your marriage without bashing in-laws.

Many couples silently struggle because they feel pressured to gain family approval instead of standing united as husband and wife. When boundaries are not set early, resentment, confusion, and emotional division can slowly damage the marriage covenant.

In this discussion, we cover:

• Why is marriage a covenant between a husband and wife
• Personality, value, cultural, and family-of-origin differences
• Why incompatibility with in-laws does not mean rebellion, bitterness, or immaturity
• Why do some families struggle to release adult children after marriage
• The fear of being labeled “difficult” or “disrespectful.”
• Why boundaries are often only a problem for those who benefited from no boundaries
• How betrayal occurs when a spouse sides with family over their partner
• Who taught you that protecting your peace was selfish?
• When limited contact or no contact may be the healthiest choice

This video is for married, engaged, and anyone preparing for marriage who wants to honor God, protect unity, and establish healthy boundaries without guilt, anger, or dishonor.

📌 Marriage thrives when loyalty is clear, boundaries are respected, and peace is protected.

Hey Believers, in this video, I take full accountability for a decision I made that hurt my wife. I acted in a selfish moment, focusing on what I wanted rather than what was best for us. I didn’t pray before making the decision. I didn’t pause. I didn’t go through the proper steps or channels that honor marriage. And that lack of consideration caused pain.

Marriage requires intention, prayer, communication, and selflessness. When we move without God, without counsel, and without considering our spouse, we risk breaking trust and unity. This conversation is not about excuses—it’s about ownership, repentance, and growth as a husband.

If you’re married, engaged, or preparing for marriage, this message is a reminder that every decision—especially financial and personal ones—should be made with wisdom, prayer, and love. Growth begins when we are honest about where we fell short and choose to do better.

This video is for husbands who want to lead better, love deeper, and walk in accountability.

Remember, it's Allan & Eve here to help you believe that marriage is not a game!!!

Child support in blended families is one of the most misunderstood and emotionally charged topics in marriage. In this video, we address a hard truth many couples avoid: what happens when the other parent does not pay child support, and the responsibility quietly shifts onto the marriage?

If you are married to someone who has children from a previous relationship, this conversation matters. When one parent fails to fulfill their legal and moral responsibilities, that burden often falls on the new household. At that point, it is no longer “his problem” or “her problem”—it becomes a team issue.

Marriage is not about keeping score. It is about unity, sacrifice, and walking in maturity. If you expect someone to help raise children brought into the marriage, you cannot reject the financial realities that come with that responsibility.

This message is for husbands, wives, step-parents, and anyone navigating blended family dynamics with wisdom, truth, and accountability.

📌 Watch, reflect, and share with someone who needs this conversation.

Marriage requires mutual respect, boundaries, and accountability—especially when it comes to exes and social media.

If your spouse tells you they are uncomfortable with you remaining friends with an ex, and you ignore them, continue anyway, and expect the marriage to be healthy… that is not love—that is disregard.

You cannot dismiss your partner’s feelings, cross clear boundaries, and then expect peace, trust, and unity in your marriage. That behavior creates confusion, insecurity, and division. A marriage cannot thrive when one spouse chooses their own comfort over their partner’s peace.

This video breaks down:

• Why staying connected to exes while married is inappropriate
• Why “I don’t see an issue” is not a valid excuse
• How ignoring boundaries damages trust
• Why mutual sacrifice is essential in marriage
• The role of respect, unity, and accountability between spouses

Marriage is not about doing whatever you want and asking your partner to “just understand.” Marriage is about honor, oneness, and the protection of the covenant.

Remember, it's Allan & Eve here to help you believe that marriage is not a game!!!

Let me take you back to a real moment in our marriage—a washing machine that seemed broken, emotions that could have escalated, and a lesson we had to learn the hard way. What started as a simple household issue revealed something much deeper: how important it is to truly hear each other, take accountability, and communicate before emotions rise.

In this story, I share how assuming something was wrong, instead of slowing down and checking together, led to unnecessary tension. It wasn’t about proving who was right—it was about ownership. Accountability doesn’t always mean saying you were right; sometimes it simply means saying, I made a mistake.

I also reflect on the choice to stay calm, not let emotions lead, and remember that in marriage, we are partners. Your money is my money. Your stress is my stress. We are on the same team. Looking back, I can clearly see where I was wrong, why my wife had every reason to be upset, and how humility and listening could have changed the outcome.

This conversation is for couples who want healthier communication, deeper understanding, and a marriage rooted in unity—not pride.

Watch, reflect, and let this be a reminder: learning to hear each other can change everything.