Every morning you answer a question - consciously or not. Who do I have to be today? Or, if you're lucky: who do I want to be today? Saskia Marjoram has spent over two decades helping women get back to the second question.

Saskia Marjoram is the founder of Saskia's Flower Essences, a former professional gardener, and spent a decade as assistant florist to the then Prince of Wales before building her own brand from the ground up. She now has a thriving online business and a retail shop in Somerset.

Her world is botanicals and vibrational medicine. But what she's really talking about is the same thing I talk about every day: we're being photographed, filmed and expected to show up as our own personal brand more than ever, and that has changed how women relate to their own image. This conversation is about the gap between who you are and how you're coming across. And what it takes to close it.

We explore:

• How flower essences work and what they actually treat
• Why being constantly photographed has changed how women relate to their own image
• The Speaking with Confidence blend and why Saskia took it before we hit record
• Growing into a piece and what it means when the world finally sees you in it
• You don’t ‘have nothing to wear’ you have nothing to wear for all the things you have to do today
• The energetics of natural fibres, colour, and dressing as a daily act of self-expression

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — When the most important conversations don't start with the clothes

00:52 — High Grove, Sandringham, and shooting parties in the Cotswolds

03:23 — Why the story behind you matters

08:33 — What flower essences actually do

09:22 — Bringing you back to the truest version of yourself

13:16 — The hemline at the wedding: knowing when something's slightly off

17:15 — Where the love of clothes began

27:06 — The blend for "I don't know what to wear anymore"

32:22 — Speaking with confidence: why you deserve to be heard

38:02 — Who do I have to be today? Or who do I want to be?

43:25 — Growing into your own presence

45:43 — Quick fire round

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. How you get dressed is a question you're already answering - the work is to answer it consciously.
2. Style isn't what you wear. It's every way you move through the world.

READY TO CLOSE THE GAP?

If this conversation landed for you and you want your style to match where you're headed, a Style Strategy Call is where we begin. Book yours here: https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call

FIND SASKIA

Website: www.saskiasfloweressences.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saskiasessences/

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What does it really mean to be visible? Not just seen, but seen in a way that feels aligned, intentional, and true to who you actually are right now?

That question sits at the heart of this conversation. And the answer is more complicated than most visibility advice lets on.

In this episode, Alex Standley is joined by Antonia Taylor, PR and communications strategist, founder of Antonia Taylor PR and Comms, and author of the report Being Seen: Women, Leadership and Visibility at Work. With over 25 years in B2B communications, Antonia has spent her career helping organisations amplify female voices and create environments where women can lead sustainably and visibly.

Alex and Antonia explore the real barriers that hold women back from being seen, and why the answer is rarely about strategy, and almost always about self.

They talk about the paradox of visibility (keep your head down and get overlooked; step forward and face the backlash), the internal critic that talks us out of everything, and what it actually means to build a visibility practice that you can sustain.

They also get into identity transitions, the symbolic power of shedding old versions of ourselves, and why your wardrobe might be holding a version of you that you've quietly outgrown.

This is a conversation for the woman who wants to be seen, but on her own terms.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

06:03 — When the purpose behind your business quietly shifts

08:27 — What professional visibility actually looks like for women (it's not one thing)

10:17 — How hybrid working pushed women to the margins

14:35 — The paradox of visibility: overlooked or punished for standing out

16:24 — Wanting to be seen, wanting to be liked, and the permission women aren't giving themselves

17:05 — Fearing the exposure that comes with being visible

19:00 — The misogyny women have internalised about other women — and where it really comes from

23:22 — Consistency not constancy: building a visibility practice that doesn't break you

27:30 — Brené Brown, Adam Grant, and the bit everyone missed about vulnerability and boundaries

29:00 — Defining your own version of visibility and knowing your boundaries before you begin

31:02 — Loop it through your heart: the filter one TED Talk speaker uses before posting anything

38:32 — The black column dresses: a coach's advice and a symbolic shedding of an old identity

41:12 — Wardrobe scarcity mindset and the "one day" clothes that quietly chip away at self-worth

51:44 — Style evolution: Antonia on finding your own aesthetic as you get clearer on who you are

54:13 — Why caring about style is joyful, not frivolous

58:36 — The first step if you want to be seen but aren't sure how

1:00:14 — Having a bigger purpose than yourself as the reason to stand on stage

CONNECT WITH ANTONIA

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/antoniataylorpr/

Report: Being Seen: Women, Leadership and Visibility at Work

https://www.antoniataylorpr.com/being-seen/

ENJOYED THIS EPISODE?

If this conversation resonated, share it with a woman in your world who is ready to be seen, but hasn't quite given herself permission yet.

Ready to align how you show up with who you are actually becoming? Book a Style Strategy Call with Alex:

https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call

What actually stops accomplished women from stepping into visibility and what does it take to move through the fear that comes up at every level?

In this episode of A Styled Life, we cover what visibility truly costs women, why self-worth is at the root of almost every block, and what it means to be in a room that actually changes how you see yourself.

I'm joined by Sara Spindle and Jess Levy, sisters, co-founders of Level Up Ladies, and two of the most energetic and honest voices in the women's entrepreneurship space. Over three years, they've built a community of hundreds of women, created over 100 business collaborations, and consistently sold out every event they run. They also speak on stages in front of thousands of women.

Sara is also a client. We worked together on her bespoke colour palette & wardrobe foundations. So there's a personal thread running through this conversation, including what happened to Sara's relationship with colour and confidence after leaving teaching, and what it actually felt like to reconnect with both.

In this episode we explore:

• Why low self-worth is the most common block to female visibility and why most women don't recognise it
• How other people's projections become the scripts we live by
• The role colour plays in confidence, energy and how you show up
• What Sara gained from working together and what she tells other women considering it
• Why waiting until you feel "ready" in your body to invest in style is the wrong order
• The daily practice that rebuilds self-belief and why putting yourself last is a choice, not a fact

Episode Highlights

00:00 — How Level Up Ladies began (a dream in Mauritius at 4am)

03:00 — Energy-first networking and why it changes everything

08:10 — The sister dynamic: seven years apart, radical honesty, and why that's the foundation

14:30 — What actually stops women from stepping into visibility

17:00 — How other people's fear shows up as criticism

19:45 — Why the work is never finished and why that's okay

23:20 — Colour as a conscious leadership choice

24:40 — Losing confidence after becoming a mum

27:00 — Using colour as a wellbeing tool, not just a style choice

29:50 — What Sara gained from the wardrobe edit and what changed her mornings

33:30 — Why waiting for the "right" body before working on your style is the wrong order

36:10 — Why high-achieving women still don't feel enough

43:25 — The dopamine list and the wins round

45:30 — "I just don't have time for myself" and why that's a choice

If this conversation landed for you and you're ready to stop dressing for who you were and start dressing for who you're becoming a Style Strategy Call is where we begin. It's a free, no-pressure conversation.

👉 Book yours here: https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call

Connect with Sara & Jess:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_levelupladies/

Website: https://levelupladies.co.uk/