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Have you been asking yourself:

Why do I feel like I have to hold everything together?

Why can't I just let my guard down?

Will I ever feel safe again?

You'll Walk Away With...

• The one lie underneath your survival mode: "I'm on my own"
• How to catch that lie in your own "I have to" sentences
• What the very first fear in the Bible (Genesis 3) reveals about why we hide after betrayal
• Why God's question, "Where are you?", is an invitation, not an accusation
• Why the answer to fear isn't a stronger you, but a present God
• One simple practice to add to this week's Heart Check

This episode is part of The Heart Reset, a four-week series walking through the 30-Day Heart Reset Map: See Yourself, See Him, Decide, and Tend. Each week has a Monday Heart Check and a Thursday Deep Dive.

We're in Week 1: See Yourself. In Episode 72, we talked about how every survival mode is protecting you from a fear. Today we go one layer deeper, to the lie underneath that fear. I share the sentence I didn't know I believed, "Trust no one but myself," and walk through three truths: survival mode runs on the lie that you're on your own; that lie is as old as the garden; and the answer to it is a Person, not a feeling. We look at Genesis 3, where God comes looking for hiding hearts, and Hebrews 13, where He promises, "I will not, I will not, I will not… leave you or forsake you."

New here? Start with Episodes 66 and 67 on survival mode, then Episode 72, then come back to this one.

• 📖 Genesis 3:9-10 (AMPC)
• 📖 Hebrews 13:5-6 (AMPC)
• 🎙️ Episode 66: Stuck After Betrayal? Here's How Survival Mode Really Shows Up
• 🎙️ Episode 67: 4 Ways We Survive Betrayal and Why They Aren't Helping You Heal
• 🎙️ Episode 69: He's Doing the Work—So Why Am I Still So Angry?
• 🎙️ Episode 72: Stuck in Emotional Chaos After Betrayal? 3 Steps That Lead You Toward Peace
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Next Steps

1. Keep practicing this week's three steps: name your mode, name your fear, bring it to God.
2. When you catch an "I have to" sentence, answer it out loud: "The Lord is my Helper. I'm not doing this alone."
3. Ready for support? Book your HEART Reset Coaching Call

Not ready for a call yet? Email hello@juliacarlton.com and I'll send you the free replay of The Heart Reset After Betrayal workshop and/or the roadmap.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.