If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly taking care of everyone else, carrying the mental load, or postponing your own life until “things settle down,” this episode is for you.

Most overfunctioners believe they’re sacrificing themselves for the people and things they love. Their relationships. Their careers. Their families. Their future.

But what if that isn’t actually true?

In this episode, I explore one of the biggest misconceptions about overfunctioning: the belief that abandoning yourself is helping everyone else. We’ll unpack why these patterns feel so noble, how they quietly create resentment and disconnection, and why the very things you’re sacrificing for may actually benefit most when you stop sacrificing yourself.

We’ll also explore:

• Why self-sacrifice often feels like the “right” thing to do.
• How overfunctioning shows up in relationships, work, and ambition.
• The hidden resentment that builds when you’re constantly putting yourself last.
• Why people around you don’t necessarily benefit from you carrying everything.
• How overfunctioning can unintentionally keep others from stepping into their own capability.
• The Mexican fisherman story—and what it teaches us about postponing our lives.
• Why changing your life starts by interrupting the pattern, not waiting for the perfect time.

If this episode resonates with you, I’d love for you to share it with someone who needs to hear it.

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