Why would a bride ask for a divorce the very next day after her wedding?

In this episode of 42 Podcatcher, we sit down with Dr. A Basheer Kutty to dissect the psychological cracks that are breaking modern marriages. From "enmeshed" parenting styles where the umbilical cord is never cut, to the destructive nature of Delusional Disorder, Dr. Basheer breaks down real-life cases that are as shocking as they are educational.

We also dive deep into the silent struggles of the bedroom—discussing Vaginismus, performance anxiety, and why the "First Night" pressure is ruining intimacy for young couples.

Topics Covered:

• The "Open Door" Divorce: How unhealthy parental attachment destroys new marriages.
• The Ego Trap: What happens when the wife earns more than the husband?
• Samshaya Rogam: When suspicion isn't just jealousy, but a medical condition (Delusional Disorder).
• Sexual Health: Understanding Vaginismus, Erectile Dysfunction, and the psychology behind them.
• The First Night Myth: Why performance pressure is killing intimacy.

About the Guest:

Dr. A. Basheer Kutty is a renowned Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist, and Lawyer with a PhD from the Central Institute of Psychiatry, Ranchi.1 He is an Associate Professor at Government Medical College, Trivandrum.2+1

Best-Selling Books by Dr. Basheer Kutty:

• Manassu: Uyarnna Chindayum Perumattavum
• Psychology for B.Sc Nursing
• Oru Manasastranjante Case Diary
• Dhyana Budha Kathakal

"At the first cup, man takes wine. At the third cup, wine takes man."

Why do academic "class toppers" often struggle the most in marriage? Is your phone addiction actually a biological rewiring of your brain? And when does romantic possessiveness cross the line into a mental disorder?

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. A. Bashir Kutty (Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist & Author) to dismantle the comfortable myths we tell ourselves about success, habits, and love.

We discuss:

• The "Class Topper" Syndrome: Why high achievers often lack the social skills to survive a marriage.
• The "Guest Rule": The controversial but effective way to handle toxic in-laws.
• Addiction 101: How to retune your brain from dopamine spikes.
• Red Flags: Why you should never marry a partner who threatens suicide.

About the Guest:

Dr. A. Bashir Kutty is a renowned Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist, and Lawyer with a PhD from the Central Institute of Psychiatry, Ranchi. He is an Associate Professor at Government Medical College, Trivandrum, and has over two decades of experience in mental health and confidence building.

Best-Selling Books by Dr. Bashir Kutty:

• Manassu: Uyarnna Chindayum Perumattavum
• Psychology for B.Sc Nursing
• Oru Manasastranjante Case Diary
• Dhyana Budha Kathakal

Timestamps:

(00:00) "Wine Takes Man": The 3 Stages of Addiction

(02:51) Is Your Phone Addiction Laziness or Biology?

(05:13) How Your Brain "Tunes" Habits

(10:08) Practical Steps to Break a Bad Habit

(15:08) The Silent Trap of Alcoholism

(22:16) Digital Detox: Can You Survive Without Instagram?

(25:23) The "Unpaid Servant" Syndrome

(27:40) How to Treat a Daughter-in-Law (The "Guest" Rule)

(33:40) Toxic In-Laws & The Food Complaint Incident

(36:30) Husbands: Acknowledge Your Waiting Wife

(40:00) The Story of the Doctor & The Driver

(44:12) Why "Class Toppers" Often Fail in Marriage

(53:00) The Fear of Marriage: Are You an "Experiment"?

(56:40) Possessiveness is NOT Love

(58:50) Suicide Threats & Narcissism: Red Flags

(01:04:45) Hiding Mental Health Issues Before Marriage

(01:06:14) Joint Family vs. Living Separately

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Why is India becoming the "Diabetes Capital" of the world?

In Part 2, U.S. Endocrinologist Dr. Gopinath Sunil exposes uncomfortable truths about the pharmaceutical and food industries.

From the controversial ban on effective medicines like Pioglitazone to the hidden dangers of Palm Oil and microplastics, this episode challenges the status quo.

Discover why the focus on insulin is flawed, how to address infertility/PCOS naturally, and the real reason effective treatments remain "banned."