Sex, disability and a little bit of first aid — because sometimes the “ooh” becomes an “oops”.

Craig and Jonas are joined by CJ from EthiKink to talk about disability, desire and why disabled people deserve far more than assumptions about what their sex lives look like. From accessibility and communication to autonomy, consent and finding creative ways to make sex work for different bodies, CJ explains why “wonky bonkers have more fun”.

Then things get practical. What happens when someone gets hurt during sex or kink? We get into sexual first aid, safer play, when it’s time to call for help, and why embarrassment should never stop you getting the care you need.

Expect singed pubes, unconventional safe signals, accessible sex, kink wisdom and a reminder that good sex is often about adaptation, communication and knowing what to do when things don’t quite go to plan.

Links and resources mentioned in this episode

• EthiKink
  Sex-positive and kink-positive first aid education from CJ.
  https://www.instagram.com/ethikink_/
• CJ / @cjarteleartist
  Kink, first aid and sex-positive education.
  https://www.instagram.com/cjarteleartist/
• SXhibition Melbourne
  Sexuality, kink and adult education events, including CJ’s “Wonky Bonking” presentation.
  https://sxhibition.com/2026/melbourne
• Lifeline Australia
  24/7 crisis support. Call 13 11 14, text 0477 13 11 14, or use online chat.
  https://www.lifeline.org.au/get-help/
• Triple Zero (000)
  For life-threatening or serious emergencies requiring ambulance, police or fire services.
  https://www.triplezero.vic.gov.au/making-triple-zero-000-call

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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