In this episode Erica and Shelbye update listeners on the big life changes that have taken place over the summer from new homes, new school transitions, travel, and a lot of personal reflection. The conversation is honest, funny, and deeply faith centered, with a strong thread running through it about distraction, priorities, and what it means to stay dependent on God.

It is also a reset for the podcast, as Erica and Shelbye share why they are picking it back up again. They share what they want the show to become, and how serving, speaking, and being faithful in the ordinary fit into the bigger picture.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a conversation that every woman has had (or avoided 👀): where is the line between self-care and vanity?

We get real about all the things—beauty routines, procedures, and the constant pressure to look a certain way—and we share our honest thoughts on it all. From Botox to brows to everything in between, nothing is off the table.

But at the heart of this conversation is one grounding truth:

if it doesn’t come before your relationship with Christ and it doesn’t come before your financial responsibilities, then it’s not the problem.

We talk about:

•The difference between confidence and comparison

•How taking care of yourself can be a form of stewardship—not selfishness

•Why self-care isn’t something to feel guilty about

•The importance of checking your heart and your priorities

We also say this loud and clear:

what someone else chooses to do with their body is not our business.

In a world full of opinions and commentary, we challenge our listeners (and ourselves) to take a step back and remember—

not every thought needs to be spoken, posted, or shared.

This episode is a reminder that:

•You can love Jesus and still enjoy getting ready

•You can take care of yourself without making yourself your god

•You can walk in confidence without tearing someone else down

At the end of the day, it’s not about perfection—it’s about posture.

Are we honoring God with our choices?

Are we rooted in Him or in validation?

Let’s talk about it 🤍

Life gets hard—for all of us.

We all walk through seasons that test us, stretch us, and sometimes knock us flat on our backs.

But here’s the real question we’re asking in this episode:

👉 When someone is struggling… do we comfort them, or do we challenge them?

In today’s conversation, we’re diving into the tension between compassion and tough love—and how knowing the difference can change the way we show up for the people we love.

We talk about:

•Why compassion is necessary—but can sometimes turn into enabling

•How “tough love” can either build someone up… or push them further down

•The difference between loving someone through something vs letting them stay stuck in it

•Real-life examples of when to sit with someone in their pain—and when to lovingly call them higher

•Why truth without love feels harsh… and love without truth isn’t actually love

We also get honest about this:

Sometimes we avoid hard conversations because they’re uncomfortable—not because they’re unloving.

And sometimes we “pet” people in their struggles instead of helping them grow through them.

💬 Key takeaway:

The goal isn’t to choose compassion or tough love—

it’s learning how to walk in both with wisdom, timing, and grace. with the property and with.