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#185 - When Career Success Strains Your Friendships (Dr. Kimberly Horn)

#185 - When Career Success Strains Your Friendships (Dr. Kimberly Horn)

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 Today we're talking about a specific and underexplored friendship challenge: what happens to your social life as your career takes off. We get right to the heart of something many ambitious women feel but rarely say out loud — that they appear socially rich on the outside while feeling quietly disconnected on the inside. We discuss why a full calendar of networking chats isn't the same as genuine connection, and how competence can become a cloak that makes others assume you don't need support.I’m joined by Dr. Kimberly Horn, an internationally recognized research psychologist, professor, and public health scientist, and the author of Friends Matter for Life: Harnessing the Eight Tenets of Dynamic Friendship. Kimberly studies friendship through a public health lens, and she’s also lived what she teaches: the higher she rose professionally, the smaller (and trickier) her social landscape became.We talk about common friendship traps for high achieving women, how success can make relationships feel murkier (hello, “real friend” vs. “deal friend”), and other issues like jealously and lopsided friendships.In this episode, we get into:Why career success can shrink your friend circle (even when you don’t want it to)The “socially rich, internally disconnected” feelingHow being “too busy” (and saying it out loud) can train people to stop inviting youThe optimization trap: why we cancel a friend walk 4 times, but never cancel the draining meetingThe comparison trap: how jealousy shows up in friendships (and why it’s normal)A concept I loved: co-celebration—and why celebrating others actually helps your brainThe over-functioning trap: when competence turns into caretaking and then into resentmentWhat “reciprocity” actually looks like in real adult friendships (hint: not 50/50, but not forever lopsided)The three options when a friendship feels “askew”Why some friendships fade without drama, and why that doesn’t mean they weren’t meaningful Practical takeaways you can try immediately:The 2-2-1 ritual: 2 texts, 2 calls, 1 in-person touchpoint each week (small, doable, and powerful)Safeguard your energy: not everyone gets full access to your calendar (this one is hard for me too)If friendship has started to feel like an “extra” you’ll get to someday, I hope this conversation helps you treat it like what it actually is: a health habit and a life support system.Meet Dr. Kimberly HornDr. Kimberly Horn is an internationally recognized research psychologist, professor, and public health scientist whose work bridges science and soul to improve human well-being. With nearly three decades of experience and more than 160 scientific publications on addiction recovery, and physical and emotional well-being across the lifespan, she is dedicated to helping people live healthier, more fulfilling lives. At the heart of her work is a simple truth: meaningful connection is a powerful health intervention.Her new book, Friends Matter, For Life: Harnessing the 8 Tenets of Dynamic Friendship—endorsed by bestselling author Mel Robbins—confronts the public health crisis of loneliness, exploring friendship as its antidote. It offers a practical path forward—rooted in research—for navigating modern friendship and reclaiming connection. Her insights have been featured by NPR, CNN, ABC, SELF, Cosmopolitan, Vogue, Mashable, Newsweek, The New York Times, TIME, USA Today, and Psychology Today. Kimberly is known for translating complex science into practical, relatable guidance for daily living.To learn more, follow Dr. Horn on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn, or visit her website.ALL THE DEAR NINA LINKS + CONTACT INFO📢 How to promote your service, business, or book on Dear Nina🎈 Celebrate your friend on the show by dedicating a week of episodes!📱 Subscribe to my newsletter “Conversations About Friendship” on Substack❤️ Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & the Dear Nina Facebook group📪 Ask an anonymous friendship question📪 email: dearninapodcast@gmail.com🔎 Want to work with me on your podcast, your friendships, or need another link? **That’s probably here.**Grateful to our sponsor this week: The Midlife Creative Studio. Head to theMidlifeCreativeStudio.com and use the code DEARNINA at checkout to carve out an hour all to yourself, for free. Special thank you, as always, to assistant producer, Rebekah Jacobs.
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