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153 - Why Hasn't Anything I've Tried Worked? (It's Not Because You Don't Want It Enough)

153 - Why Hasn't Anything I've Tried Worked? (It's Not Because You Don't Want It Enough)

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Send me a text message about this podcast SummaryHave you ever been told, or told yourself, that if you really wanted a tidier home you'd have done it by now? In this episode Heather gets into why that message is so untrue, and why wanting it badly is rarely the missing piece. Money, health, energy, the people you live with, inherited stuff and sheer volume all play their part, and so do systems that were built for someone else's brain. Sometimes, though, what keeps you stuck is more psychological than that.Heather talks about how every blitz that slid back and every borrowed system that never stuck quietly gets filed away as evidence that you can't do this. If you're neurodivergent and have spent years braced for criticism, it's no wonder your brain eventually asks why you're even bothering.She shares three stories she sees over and over with clients. The first is the quiet belief that you don't deserve a nice home, or that you'd never keep it nice anyway. The second is the feeling that there's no point until you move or the extension gets built. The third is the idea that nice homes just aren't who you are. That last one is personal. Heather opens up about growing up in doer uppers, envying friends with freshly plastered new builds, nearly writing to DIY SOS, and realising it was never the walls that made her home feel wrong.There's a lot here about perfectionism, and why you're allowed one lovely corner, one comfy nook or one finished drawer even when the rest of the room still needs work. Heather explains avoidance as self preservation: your brain protecting you from disappointment. What breaks the cycle is trusting yourself (or trusting her, if that feels like too much right now), with mindset and action working together. There's also an HSIO moment giving you permission to want and keep a nice home, whatever your family's homes looked like.This is the penultimate episode before DeclutterCon on 10th October at the Radisson Blu, Sheffield, UK. Tickets are on sale until Sunday 4th October, now with live stream tickets available if you can't be there in person. You'll find them at www.decluttercon.co.uk Timestamps00:00 - Why decluttering failures are usually psychological, not proof of laziness00:57 - Why “you don't want it enough” is a damaging myth03:21 - Why self-help advice often misses the real problem05:15 - Wanting it badly can become part of the overwhelm06:14 - When the issue is systems, not mindset06:43 - Why blitz decluttering works briefly and then falls apart09:07 - The hidden belief that you do not deserve a nice home10:31 - “It is temporary” and why waiting can last for years13:49 - Perfectionism and the belief that a home must be fully finished to be worth loving15:40 - Self-preservation, avoidance, and the cycle that keeps people stuck19:07 - Why mindset and action both have to change together19:37 - Heather Says It Is Okay: permission to want and keep a nice home20:36 - Choosing one tiny change instead of copying someone else's system21:59 - Final encouragement and reminder to be kind to yourself Support the showIf you'd like to say 'Thank you', by buying me a virtual coffee (it'll actually buy me a cup of tea!), you can do so HERE. It will mean I can afford to continue to give help for free and continue with this podcast.Get started with my Zoning and Getting Started Workshop, everything you need to know on how to get started and have the best success when decluttering.Join my free Declutter Community for real support, tips and advice from Heather and other Untanglers that are just like you!Follow me on FacebookBuy my Declutter Your Home Planner from Amazon to start to declutter your home yourself! (affiliate link)Grab my current freebies to support a cleaner, tidier home.Follow me on instagramFeel free to email me: help@untangledbytingle.com Please note, I may not be able to reply, but do read all emails to me and appreciate them massively.
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