This week on (re)Parenting Radio Lisa is joined by guest John Harper — Diamond Approach teacher, Enneagram guide, and author of The Enneagram World of the Child and Nurturing Essence: A Compass for Essential Parenting.

Together, they explore what John calls “the dance of development” — the way a child’s early environment, their parents’ personalities, and the nervous system’s survival responses weave together to create the sense of self we later mistake as “just who I am.”

You’ll hear John unpack:

• How fear, anger, shame, and the inner critic become core forces in ego development
• Why children almost always conclude, “It must be my fault,” when something goes wrong
• How early shocks and repeated tensions (like conflict, chaos, or criticism) wire the nervous system
• How awareness, acceptance, and curiosity gently dissolve old patterns without force

Lisa brings in the (re)Parenting Method℠ lens — connecting John’s spiritual-psychological framework with real-life reparenting:

• Why you didn’t “choose” your early programming, but can take responsibility for healing it
• How your nervous system keeps trying to return to the energetic “comfort zone” of childhood
• Why chasing “happiness” doesn’t work if your system is still wired for chaos, criticism, or conflict

This episode is an invitation to:

• See your parents — and yourself — as innocent to conditioning
• Get curious about the patterns you’re still reenacting in your relationships
• Reclaim presence as the most powerful parenting tool you have

Whether you’re a parent, a cycle-breaker, or simply someone devoted to inner work, this conversation will help you understand how you became who you are, and how to gently reorient back to who you’ve always been.

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Websites: https://www.harpgnosis.shop

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