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Why do small things trigger big fights in relationships?
Have you ever wondered why you keep reacting to your partner even when you don't want to?
And why does it feel like the argument is never really about the thing you're arguing about?

In this episode of Real Influence, Joey breaks down why small things trigger you in relationships and how those moments are often tied to old emotional patterns, inherited beliefs, and nervous system reactions you didn't consciously choose 🤓.

If you've ever asked yourself "why do tiny annoyances turn into big arguments?" or "why do I overreact to my partner?", this conversation will hit home.

We explore why small things cause big fights, how reacting versus responding in relationships shapes connection, and what's actually happening in your body when you feel triggered 😄. Joey explains relationship triggers, defensiveness, and emotional reactions in relationships, helping you see conflict not as a failure but as information.

This episode is especially for anyone stuck in repeating relationship patterns, struggling with communication in long-term relationships, or feeling frustrated that awareness alone hasn't stopped the same arguments from happening again. You'll learn how to stop fighting over small things, how to respond instead of react, and how to interrupt the automatic reactions that damage connection.

We also dive into how childhood conditioning shows up in adult relationships, why resentment builds quietly, and how emotional regulation in relationships starts with self-awareness, not control 🤍. If you're searching for how to heal relationship triggers, how to stop being defensive with your partner, or why your partner triggers you so easily, this episode gives you language and clarity.

This isn't relationship advice about fixing your partner. It's about breaking emotional loops, choosing conscious response, and learning how to create healthier, calmer, more connected relationships from the inside out.

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In this, we'll talk about:

00:00 Why Small Triggers Create Big Emotional Reactions

06:10 Why Conflict Is Rarely About What You're Fighting Over

12:05 How Past Conditioning Shows Up in Present Relationships

18:40 Reaction vs Response and Why Awareness Isn't Enough

25:30 The Nervous System, Safety, and Emotional Regulation

32:10 Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns

39:15 How to Interrupt Emotional Loops in Real Time

46:20 Choosing Connection, Responsibility, and Growth

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