Sometimes the corporate culture in which we find ourselves doesn’t match our personality. Occasionally, that can lead to healthy creative friction; other times it creates painful pressure to conform. That was the situation facing one of my executive MBA students. “I’m having a problem at work,” she told me. “I keep getting feedback that I’m distant, and I think it’s harming my career.” The reason she was getting that response, she admitted, is that she was acting aloof. “I’m not sure how to be my real self at work,” she said.