Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty advice for the broken-hearted.
Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn't expect someone to return to daily activities immediately after suffering a broken limb, heartbroken people are expected to function normally in their lives, despite the emotional pain they feel. Now psychologist Guy Winch imagines how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotion - if only we can understand how heartbreak works, we can begin to fix it.
Through compelling research and new scientific studies, Winch reveals how and why heartbreak impacts our brain and our behavior in dramatic and unexpected ways, regardless of our age. Emotional pain lowers our ability to reason, to think creatively, to problem solve, and to function at our best. In How to Fix a Broken Heart he focuses on two types of emotional pain - romantic heartbreak and the heartbreak that results from the loss of a cherished pet. These experiences are both accompanied by severe grief responses, yet they are not deemed as important as, for example, a formal divorce or the loss of a close relative. As a result, we are often deprived of the recognition, support, and compassion afforded to those whose heartbreak is considered more significant.
Our heart might be broken, but we do not have to break with it. Winch reveals that recovering from heartbreak always starts with a decision, a determination to move on when our mind is fighting to keep us stuck. We can take control of our lives and our minds and put ourselves on the path to healing. Winch offers a toolkit on how to handle and cope with a broken heart and how to, eventually, move on.
I was really captivated by this book. It not only validated feelings I had about heartbreak, but offered logical and compelling strategies for healing. The concept of disenfranchised grief is well explained by the author. It’s something I never associated as to why short term romantic heartbreaks were just as painful as the loss of a loved one. I highly recommend this book to anyone looking for answers or to be healthy after a heartbreak.
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My first relationship happened by the age of 30, being gay and with a terrible self esteem. When it ended at the age of 32 I was devastated. I had just lost my companion which I shared so many activities from backpacking, gaming, going out, traveling and exercising with. With it I was thrown back into the dating scene with my self criticism and had no idea of how to move on. How to fill the gaps where we shared so much and where he gave me support. After listening to the audio book I now have the tools to move on. It will not be easy, but now I know what I must do. Not only search new friends and activities but also and maybe the most important, remove my low self esteem. Thank you for writing the book and sharing your thoughts on the topic!
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I am going through a terrible breakup right now and I was hoping for a concrete solution as to how to deal with the pain. Instead I only read why it is so devastating and now find myself even more depressed.
I read his other book “Emotional First Aid” and gave it 5 stars all around... this one feels incomplete in the worst way. I’m really disappointed.
Great descriptions of broken hearts, but not much suggestions on how to fix it or heal other than the obvious, minimize or avoid social media & jump back up again.
I was really desperate for help when I got this book. It is a really painful heartbreak for me. It almost felt like the first time my heart is broken this time. Some of the case of of aftermath of heartbreak written in the book were similar to what I’ve gone through in my much younger years (except for the cancer part). Yet, it doesn’t help much with mine. I’m not saying their cases are less severe; to be fair, it’s a good book and comfort “read” for those who need it to begin their recovery and healing. Overall, it didn’t do much to me.
thank you, I needed to hear this. trying to recover now. Will be looking for more of your titles.
I loved and needed this book.. and for me I found it at the perfect time. The only thing about my situation is that there is still hope for a relationship to happen for us in the future. So it hurts right now and hopefully with time I can manage the sadness. Broken hearts are very misunderstood.. this was a great read!!
Well-written well-narrated. The author seems like an expert in his field, has a clear way of expressing ideas & a great skill in telling personal stories.
Would you consider the audio edition of How to Fix a Broken Heart to be better than the print version?
I am not one for self help books but this one I felt was the right balance of informative, scientific and helpful. The author makes some very interesting points throughout and he brings a fresh perspective to a very 'cliche' and taboo subject. I also liked the fact that he used examples of his patients throughout because it made the whole thing a bit more real.
I also loved the fact that it was short and sweet.
If you have a broken hart or you know someone that has a broken heart, give this a go.
What does Guy Winch bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you had only read the book?
I always like it when the author is the narrator as well and this is no exception. He does an amazing job highlighting the book's main premise, of being consultative without being patronising.