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Are you still waiting for someone to acknowledge what happened, apologize, or finally take some of the weight off you? The rescue fantasy is one of the most reasonable things a hurt person can carry — and one of the most expensive. Tracy Smaldino explains why nobody is coming, what waiting actually costs you, and why becoming your own hero is the moment everything changes.

For ten years at House of Blues she made sure everyone else could walk into the light — while hiding under that same stage, waiting for someone to come get her.

In this episode:
- The rescue fantasy — who you're actually waiting for
- Why waiting is active, not passive
- Why you keep the wound open as evidence
- How waiting hands the person who hurt you control of your timeline
- What being your own hero actually means — and what it doesn't
- Why it wasn't your fault AND it's your responsibility now
- 5 ways to stop waiting and start today

"Waiting for someone to save you hands them one more thing. They already took something from you. Now they get to decide when you're allowed to be done with it."
— Tracy Smaldino

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