Do you ever get to the end of the day and focus on everything you got wrong, rather than everything you’ve held together?

In this week’s Motherkind Moment, Zoe is joined by life coach Dior Bediako, founder of Pepper Your Talk, whose clients include Rochelle Humes and author Elizabeth Uviebinené. Dior shares a simple way to rethink how you speak to yourself: would you say those same words to your best friend?

Together, Zoe and Dior explore how to take responsibility without blaming yourself, and why the moments when you find it hardest to be kind to yourself are often when you need it most.

Whether you’ve shouted when you wanted to stay calm or feel torn between work and your children, this is a reminder that you can acknowledge what you’d like to do differently without tearing yourself down.

💡 In this moment, we explore:

• How to speak to yourself with the kindness you’d offer your best friend

• The difference between taking responsibility and blaming yourself

• Why being hard on yourself doesn’t help you move forward

• How to meet mum guilt and difficult parenting moments with self-compassion

• Being honest about what you want to improve without shaming yourself

You can do hard things and still be kind to yourself.

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Key topics: Self-compassion • Mum guilt • Negative self-talk • Inner critic • Self-forgiveness • Emotional wellbeing • Taking responsibility without shame • Working mothers • Building a kinder relationship with yourself