What did you learn about conflict before you ever had words for it?

Perhaps disagreement meant raised voices. Perhaps it meant silence, distance, or keeping the peace at the expense of what you really wanted to say. Whatever the experience, we each carry a personal conflict story into our relationships, often without realizing how much it shapes the way we respond.

In Part 1 of this three-part Rooted & Wild series, I’m joined by Jim Rottman, Co-Founder of Rottman Consulting and co-author of The Confluence Method™, to explore the beliefs, expectations, and familiar patterns we bring into difficult conversations.

Jim brings more than 25 years of senior leadership experience across biotechnology, financial services, and automotive, including global roles at Roche, Genentech, American Express, and Volvo Cars, where he most recently served as Global Head of Culture and Inclusion. Today, he helps leadership teams navigate pressure, work through conflict, and rebuild trust when change or disagreement has divided the room.

But the questions at the heart of this conversation reach far beyond the workplace.

What do we assume when someone disagrees with us? What does our instinct to defend, withdraw, or smooth things over reveal about how we understand conflict? And how can we make room for another person’s perspective while staying connected to our own?

Together, we explore how recognizing our personal conflict story can help us approach tension with greater awareness and intention. Whether you’re navigating a difficult conversation with a partner, a family member, a friend, or a colleague, this episode invites you to become curious about what you bring into the room.

Think of a disagreement you keep replaying. Beneath what was said, what did you believe was at stake?

That question is where our series begins.

Continue the series:
Part 2: Healthy Conflict: How Teams and Relationships Can Turn Tension Into Growth
Part 3: Repair After Conflict: The Science of Rebuilding Trust and Connection

Connect with Jim:
https://www.rottmanconsulting.com

Explore the book, The Confluence Method™:
https://www.theconfluencemethod.com

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Rooted & Wild provides general information for educational and informational purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guest speakers are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Henry Hawk. The content shared on this podcast is not intended to replace individualized medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice, nor should it be used to diagnose or treat any health condition. Listeners are encouraged to consult with qualified healthcare professionals regarding any medical or mental health concerns.