Why do people stay in relationships that look exhausting, volatile, or unhealthy from the outside? In this episode of Ella Podcasts, we explore so-called toxic relationships — and why intensity, conflict, and chaos can become the glue that holds couples together.

We share real examples of partners who repeatedly return to therapy even while openly loathing each other. Why does the cycle of abandonment, conflict, reconciliation, and passion become so addictive?

We also dive into fascinating research showing that relationship outcomes can be predicted with striking accuracy simply by observing how couples communicate during conflict. How we fight often tells us more than how we love. This isn’t about judgment. It’s about understanding:

• Why do some relationships thrive on intensity?
• Why does familiarity feel safer than stability?
• Why doing inner work before long-term commitment can change everything?

Learn why people stay, and others leave, and hear real and raw perspectives.

Ella Podcasts is a space where tough times are not minimized, where humour and honesty sit side by side, and where listeners are invited to unpack what weighs them down and leave with tools that help them stand up again. Listen now for authentic conversations, practical tools to take away, and a sprinkle of humor.

Ella Podcasts is recognised as the “Best Mental Health Podcast in Asia Pacific of 2026” by Best of Best Review and “Best Mental Health Podcast in Singapore of 2026” by Evergreen Awards.

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