There are no trophies for being the doormat. Let’s talk about what actually changes your life.

In this episode, Kait Dinunzio sits down with returning guest Amanda Graham, author of Good Stuff to Read When You’re About to Lose Your Sht*, public speaker, and writer, to talk about the real cost of staying quiet.If you’ve been people-pleasing, second-guessing yourself, or letting fear keep you small, this conversation is your reminder: there are no trophies for being a doormat. Amanda breaks down how to trust yourself, speak up (even when you’re scared), and build the kind of resilience that turns setbacks into power.

You’ll hear about:

-Why people-pleasing backfires (and what to do instead)

-Confidence as a skill you build, not a trait you’re born with

-Rejection as redirection, and how to move forward without spiraling

-Finding connection and community when life feels off-track

-How to become more resourceful, grounded, and “unbreakable” over timeIf you’re in a messy season, rebuilding your life, or learning how to advocate for yourself, this episode will hit.

Watch next: More Unbreakable episodes on boundaries, mindset, leadership, and resilience.

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In this Episode:

00:00 — No Trophies for Being the Doormat

02:05 — Who Amanda Is + Why She’s Back

03:20 — The Messages Nobody Posts Publicly

04:25 — The “Should Timeline” Trap (and Keeping Up)

06:20 — Rejection as Redirection + Choosing Your Life

08:25 — Living Like the Person You Want to Become

10:20 — Why We Chase Status Goals (and What We Really Want)

13:55 — Legacy: What Actually Matters Long-Term

16:25 — Confidence = Faith You’ll Figure It Out

18:10 — Resilience: Turning Chaos Into a Story

20:55 — Don’t Struggle Alone: Find Your People

35:45 — Where to Find Amanda + Final Takeaway