NOTE: This episode was recorded before the murder of Alex Pretti in Minneapolis. Our hearts are with his family and we share your outrage about his murder. Abolish ICE.

In this episode of Messy Liberation, Becky and Taina sit inside two overlapping kinds of grief: personal loss and collective unraveling. Becky names the heavy, destabilizing grief of watching U.S. power erode on the global stage—and what it means to confront the loss of privilege, safety, and certainty in real time. Taina shares the complicated aftermath of her mother’s death, including the anger, relief, and dissonance that come from being told a story about someone that doesn’t match your lived experience.

Together, they explore grief as a political and embodied experience, the difference between healthy and harmful anger, and why being “aware” isn’t enough without guardrails, resourcing, and community. This episode is about naming the mess without rushing to fix it—and learning how to stay human when the world makes it very tempting not to.

🧠 Discussed in This Episode
• The grief of losing global privilege—and why it still matters even when privilege is complicated
• Why awareness without action (or guardrails) can keep us stuck
• Seasonal depression, political despair, and “who gives a shit” energy
• Resource mapping as a tool for emotional regulation and capacity
• Healthy anger vs. destructive anger—and why movements can’t survive on rage alone
• Parenting, power dynamics, and what under-resourcing does to relationships
• Complicated grief after the death of an abusive or estranged parent
• The dissonance of hearing glowing stories about someone who harmed you
• Relief as a valid response to death—and why that doesn’t mean you didn’t love them
• Dehumanization, polarization, and the cost of refusing to seek understanding
• Why systems benefit when we fight each other instead of looking up

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