When did life turn into a deadline?

In Episode 3 of Who Told You That?, Marquita challenges the quiet pressure so many of us carry—the belief that by a certain age, we should already have it all together. The career. The relationships. The healing. The confidence. The clarity.

This episode explores how comparison, social timelines, and external expectations create anxiety, self-doubt, and a constant sense of falling behind. We unpack the myth of arrival—the idea that there’s a final destination where everything suddenly makes sense—and why that belief keeps us disconnected from the beauty of becoming.

Through honest reflection and psychological insight, Marquita reminds listeners that growth is not linear, clarity is not instant, and purpose is not on a clock. You are not late. You are not behind. You are not failing.

You are evolving.

This conversation is an invitation to release unrealistic timelines, honor your current season, and trust that becoming who you are meant to be takes time—and that time is not working against you.

Because your life is not a race.
And you don’t have to be “there” to be worthy.

Credits & References

Festinger, L. (1954) – Social Comparison Theory, Human Relations Journal

Erikson, E. (1982) – The Life Cycle Completed, on identity and adult development

American Psychological Association (APA) – Research on social comparison, self-esteem, and decision-making

Insights and reflection from Marquita Clark and the MAQ Mentoring community

Disclaimer

This podcast is for educational and inspirational purposes only. It does not substitute for professional mental health advice. If you are struggling with anxiety, self-doubt, or life transitions, please consult a licensed therapist, counselor, or mental health professional.