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What happens when the person who’s always been “the independent one” realizes that independence has quietly become emotional armor?

In today’s episode, I sit down with Aria - a former client - for an honest, heart-opening conversation about her journey from emotional avoidance to authentic intimacy.

For much of her dating life, Aria attracted people who weren’t able to be truly available for the love and intimacy she craved. In addition, her unavailability showed up in various ways in her love life. But beneath that strength lived a deep fear of vulnerability, dependence, and letting herself truly be seen.

Together, we explore how avoidant attachment can subtly block love — even when someone deeply wants partnership - and what becomes possible when the heart learns that closeness can be safe.

In this conversation, Aria shares:

✨ How avoidant tendencies showed up in her dating and relationships
✨ The unconscious strategies she used to protect herself from intimacy
✨ What shifted when she learned to soften, open, and share even more truthfully in relationship
✨ How our work together helped her rewire old attachment patterns
✨ What “available love” actually looks like now in her life
✨ The difference between intellectual understanding and embodied healing
✨ How opening her heart changed not only her dating life - but her relationship with herself

This episode is especially powerful for anyone who:

•⁠ ⁠Identifies as emotionally independent but struggles with deep intimacy
•⁠ ⁠Tends to pull away when relationships get real
•⁠ ⁠Is attracted to partners who want more closeness than they can tolerate or frequently attracts commitment phobes or emotionally unavailable people
•⁠ ⁠Has done personal growth work but still feels blocked in love
•⁠ ⁠Wants partnership — yet fears losing autonomy or getting hurt

Aria’s story is a beautiful reminder that healing avoidant attachment isn’t about becoming “needier” or giving up independence — it’s about expanding our capacity to receive love without shutting down.

If you’ve ever wondered whether secure, emotionally available love is possible for you…
this conversation will speak straight to your heart.

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To apply to work with Maya go to: empowerlove.us/breakthrough

To find out about Aria’s work in the world: lisabeem.com

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