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What if the toughest thing about being a dad isn’t discipline or providing, but slowing down long enough to be truly present? That question sits at the heart of our conversation with Oscar Peña, host of The Daughtered Podcast, a “girl dad” whose military career, COVID lockdowns, and three daughters pushed him to rethink masculinity, leadership at home, and the real meaning of strength.

We talk about the quiet force that kept him distant for years: fear. Fear of doing it wrong. Fear of big emotions. Fear disguised as productivity and the breadwinner role. Oscar shares how journaling during lockdown uncovered the weight of missed moments with his older girls, and how simple rituals—phones down, eyes up, listening without fixing—helped him repair trust and rebuild connection. He gets practical on shutting down the classic “ask Dad after Mom says no” pattern with nightly alignment, and how a united front preserves safety without power games.

This isn’t theory. It’s dinner, diapers, and deep listening. Oscar describes healthy masculinity as the capacity to carry your emotions and hold space for others, to protect while empowering independence, to cook the meal and set boundaries in the same breath. We explore how daughters challenge and stretch fathers in every direction—emotionally, mentally, physically—and why that stretch can make men better humans. We also go behind the scenes of starting The Daughtered Podcast: the stumbles, the unexpected community of creators, and the aim to leave a living record of growth for his kids.

You can find Oscar's amazing podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-daughtered-podcast/id1740582127

If you’ve ever wondered how to be more present when life is loud, or how to repair bonds you regret missing, this conversation offers clear steps and honest hope. Listen, share it with a dad who needs it, and if it resonates, subscribe and leave a review so m

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