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If you are watching this, it’s likely your wife wants a divorce, and you want to save the marriage. If you are willing to take responsibility and step up as a leader, not a dictator, but a true husband and father, this video is for you.

In this video, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down the psychology behind why women leave and introduces the concept of the "Push" and the "Pull." It isn't about magic bullets; it's about understanding the deep-seated "whys" behind her decision and taking specific actions to turn it around.

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If you are asking, "Why does my wife want a divorce?", it almost always comes down to three specific dynamics.

1. The Push (Driving Her Away) This occurs when your behavior evokes negative emotions in your wife. Even if you didn't mean to, things like angry outbursts, ignoring her, controlling behavior, or making her feel disrespected push her out the door.

The Fix: Identify what behaviors are causing her pain and STOP them immediately.

2. The Lack of Pull (No Emotional Connection) You might not be pushing her away, but you aren't drawing her in. A lack of pull means you aren't evoking positive emotions. She needs to feel heard, understood, accepted, and safe.

The Fix: Learn to listen to understand (not to fix) and create a safe emotional space.

3. The Outside Pull (A Better Option) This isn't always another man. An outside pull can be a dream, a career, a new self-image, or a lifestyle she desires more than her current life with you.

The Warning: Do not try to attack the outside pull (or the other guy). It will only make her defend it. Focus on fixing your own pushes and pulls.

ABOUT THE VIDEO
If your wife has said "I love you but I'm not in love with you," or if she is already filing for divorce, panic is your enemy. Many men react by begging, pleading, or getting angry—all of which act as "pushes."

Dr. Joe explains that saving a marriage requires:

Owning your part: Admitting that you may have contributed to the breakdown.

Willingness to learn: Moving past "I know everything" and seeking expert help.

Urgency: Understanding that waiting for her to "come to her senses" usually leads to divorce.

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